sailormars 10 months

Somebody once told me You don’t earn anything by playing small. And that stuck with me forever

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lax 10 months

672 Kinda knowingly did the mistake of going somewhere cheap to cut my back and sides, cause it was starting to bother me and I didn’t wanted to look messy for the holidays Oh well, at least my hair grows rather fast

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fusionvision 10 months

Do we all have NPD in current eras?

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psaltair 10 months

when you smiled at me // something changed in my brain chemistry

datboi_ash 10 months

Why do I feel like there are straight men on this app pretending to be gay👀🫢

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zayn 9 months

looking back at my pics, am i a shape shifter for real

psaltair 10 months

every good thing comes my way

amz 9 months

Happy New Year! Wishing you all the best for 2026. 🎉

madebyhamza 10 months

attended a focus group hosted by one of my design hero’s and now she knows me by my name 😫 (tried really hard to not fan girl in front of random strangers)

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studiokervo 10 months

As a fellow know it all, in order to avoid being absolutely insufferable, it’s okay to play dumb sometimes and let other people teach you things you already know :)

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milly 10 months

Jacob Elordi always looks like he’s about to tell you a fun little secret

azam 10 months

datboi_ash 10 months

YESSS EP 5 of heated rivalry is here

sailormars 10 months

Journaling prompt: wouldn’t you be happier if you loved what you think it’s unloveable about yourself?

djbacchanalia 10 months

Hello my cuties on my tiny screen! What are your holiday plans?

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harmsy2 9 months

Need a man to love me as much as Fruma Sarah loved her pearls

lax 9 months

662 Getting back to routine after all these break and holiday is gonna be tough That said, went for the usual rings classes and managed to pull some aerial aerobics off

strawbrry 10 months

got ghosted by a freelance client at a time when I need financial stability the most.

jkadz 9 months

auld lang syne to those who celebrate

akai 10 months

I spent years feeling alone in relationships. Not because love was missing, but because I wasn’t really letting myself be seen. Not fully. Not in real time. What’s changing that for me isn’t more sharing — it’s more curiosity. The kind that stays present when it’s easier to perform. The kind that makes space for real connection, even when it’s a little messy. I’m working on a project about this right now — how relational curiosity might be the missing skill in how we love, listen, and relate. If this touches something in you, I’d love to hear your experience: When have you felt unmistakably seen in a relationship — or quietly unseen, even when everything looked “good”? Just collecting thoughts, patterns, language. No pressure. Just dialogue and maaaaybe some beta testing :)

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jarrodt83 9 months

If I asked this boy at the gym to wrap his legs around my head, respectfully, think he’d be offended?

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silasg 10 months

Is it a post-30s crisis to feel out of place with friendships and have the desire to meet new people, new vibes, a change of scenery?

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lax 10 months

678 Out of the blue, felt a strong longing for him… maybe because Christmas is nearing the corner and everyone seems to be with their close ones and I think I have been unconsciously avoiding that…

axl 10 months

Happy Christmas Collective! Sometimes it may not feel like it but, you are seen. You are loved. You matter.

datboi_ash 10 months

Alr this is question is for the ppl who are Christian and believe in Jesus and also loves other men I’m struggling with this and Im always confused whether it’s ok to love another man or is it a sin or what Because how can loving someone be a sin when it’s not lust or anything And plus the other person helped me to get better understanding of God and his love for us Pls help me understand and not more confused or misleaded And no this is a public everyone can have a say in it I’m not judging or anything or whatsoever I just need answers 🍁

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lax 10 months

676 for some reason, sometimes, I write a post and then forget to press post and then it goes away I remember my Tuesday post : went out with the gymnastic rings group to have a drink and realise how socially inept I was :/..oh well

rose.in.blooom 10 months

Anyone else feeling not very christmassy this year? I’ve literally got all the gifts last minute because it’s felt like Christmas is a while away even though it’s not long AT ALL 🎄🤦🏻‍♀️

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southerncowrie 10 months

Wanting the Christmas spirit but got the spirit of a Jezebel instead🫩

michenoble 10 months

Gotta spend £300 on my car tomorrow, I’m not a racer girl (I am lowkey) my car just won’t start

duplesis 10 months

In a world where being authentic is the ultimate goal, isn’t getting messy, misunderstood, underrated and such a term misused? Striving for being genuine is a higher standard. Comes from within, and honestly is so hard to find that kind of gem these days, almost becoming rare if I may. Don’t come looking for the things I can’t offer, however, I gladly share. Again: Happy Holidays. With love, Frank.

tristian 10 months

Fashion went harder when full-blown orientalism was not recognized as a cancellable offence. Tom Ford and John Galliano were going offfff

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sailormars 10 months

Limiting beliefs are childish- Hear me out: They come from your childhood, and your justification of them makes you look like a kid. In fact you act like a child when you’re fixated in your limitations. Why? Because that’s what you’ve learned, and it’s wired in your subconscious. You identify with lack because you probably saw your parents identify with it, you feel unloveable because your parents didnt know how to love you. And because you still live from that place that’s all you see and experience. Let go of the past, set yourself free and go live your life like an adult. You can make more money than your parents did, you get to love who you choose to be with, you get to feel good about yourself simply because you exist! Talk to yourself like an adult, you get to define what type of adult you become. If you don’t know how to be one, that’s where the work begins Besos 💋

itsjacobedmonds 9 months

There are so many beautiful boys everywhere. ☺️

s.owen 10 months

already blocked one AI-thirst trap poster today 🤩 merry xmas eve

willy 10 months

🗽 nyc collective: stylist here looking to collab and meet other fashion industry people. Let's create 🖌️📸🧣 !!

boszaloha 9 months

📆“Before December comes to an end” it reminds us that everything happens for a reason. Take the moments of happiness as positive energy. See the moments of discomfort as lessons to learn from. When the final month of the year passes, we realize that we’ve grown — one more year, one more step forward.✌🏻💕 Cr. The Black Book of MANIFEST

azam 9 months

If you don’t choose me, I won’t choose you. It’s easy, don’t fall in love with people for whom you are not a priority. Period

avatar.isaac 10 months

imma need yall to post more because I’m here liking things from 3 months ago

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zayn 10 months

DID YOU MISS MEEEEEE

lax 9 months

661 Can’t believe today is the last day of 2025…

jcp 10 months

Very sad to hear about the passing of adult male actor Lane V Rogers aka Blake Mitchell. He passed away today from a motorcycle accident. In the healthcare system motorcycles are also called donorcycles because th victims are almost always candidates for organ donation. May he rest in peace. He was only 31 years old.

masc_y_medio 10 months

Watching heated rivalry and reflecting back I was Scott in my relationship and I’m so grateful that made the decision that my freedom and happiness was more important than what anyome thought of me and my relationship. It changed my life forever.

sailormars 10 months

People get to love your light when you embrace your shadows

fridi105 10 months

I’m so weird that I genuinely laugh at the ridiculous things that pop into my head sometimes. 🙃

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nc180 10 months

Do you talk to the people you often see at your local gym? I keep to myself but I did talk to someone and they were cool. However, you miss 1 day of saying, “hey” cuz some days you just want to keep to yourself or its a rough day and that person suddenly doesn’t want anything to do with you😂. Like damn bro who hurt you?

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jbenjamin 10 months

Someday soon we all will be together…in a sauna hopefully 🥵

thnhdlng 10 months

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the train station theory - this idea that life is a journey where everyone you meet is a passenger. Some only sit beside you for a few stops, others stay a little longer, and a few ride with you until the very end. It’s a simple metaphor, but it’s changed how I see people and the role they play in my life. For so long, I tried to hold on-wanting certain connections to last forever, replaying moments in my head, wondering what went wrong when people drifted away. But the truth is, not everyone is meant to stay for the whole journey. Some are there to teach you something, to remind you of who you were at that stop, before you moved forward. There’s a strange kind of peace that comes with that acceptance. You stop chasing, stop questioning, stop trying to make temporary people permanent. It’s not about losing people anymore; it’s about learning to appreciate the ones who choose to stay, even when they have every reason to leave. Those few who remain seated beside you-not because they have to, but because they want to. And those are the ones worth cherishing. 🫧

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toimoiaussi_ 10 months

These are not nails, they’re relics I’ve welded to myself. Real stones, the kind the earth had to suffer : heavy, unpolished, stubborn. I let them stay raw, because refinement is a cheap trick for people who fear reality. Silver clings around them like metal scraped off a broken machine, as if luxury was never meant to be smooth. I don’t wear glitter, I wear geological evidence as proof that something precious can exist without behaving nicely. Let everyone chase polish and symmetry; I’m busy dragging minerals straight from the dirt to my hands. If beauty has no meaning, then at least let it be rare, heavy, and older than every opinion in the room. I don’t decorate myself. I carry artifacts.

lax 9 months

665 Got too busy escaping and running away from life and into the game that I missed out on the whole day

sub 10 months

More connected than ever, yet more isolated than ever. We’re constantly connected, and increasingly alone. Connection has never been easier but loneliness has never been louder.

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jorge_ 10 months

Meu timão 🤍🖤 ganhou a copa do Brasil hojeee

oscarspixels 9 months

“I’m coming to the cottage”

quinoandino 10 months

All I want for Christmas is my Collective Crush

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strawbrry 10 months

getting a memorial tat for my friend tomorrow 💉❤️

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strawbrry 10 months

time to clock in at the five finger discount self-check out at the mega conglomerate grocery store

lax 10 months

675 I can’t believe I voluntarily took up an extra shift to work tomorrow…. Also expecting some news tomorrow..hope it’s good

izaakzed 9 months

My body count resets every new year.

datboi_ash 10 months

I’m sorry but after watching episode four of heated rivalry I don’t know what to say but it’s always the woman getting involved between two men in love Like seriously rose back off Ilya was his first not urs look what u have started between them beach 😭😭 AND SECOND OF ALL WHATS HAPPENING WITH SCCOT AND KIP 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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