jamie98 8 months

Do I get another tattoo? If so what?

chrisbyerzz 7 months

Ugh…got the flu again! 🤒

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0beron_0restes 8 months

I don’t understand people who think eternal life would be a curse. I’d rather stay on this awful planet indefinitely than prepare for eternal nothingness or maybe something worse

toimoiaussi_ 8 months

A lot of people say they don’t want drama. What they actually mean is that they don’t want emotional responsibility — ni pour eux, ni pour les autres. We live in a time where intensité is celebrated, but clarté feels threatening. People crave closeness: long nights, soft conversations, physical presence, la chaleur humaine. Yet the moment something requires direction, intention, or continuity, they freeze. So they hide behind language. “Let’s not rush.” “We’ll see.” “It’s just a moment.” As if vagueness were wisdom. As if emotional fog were depth. But there’s a difference between being deep and being lost. Between sensibilité and indecision. Between freedom and avoidance. Many minds today are divided: one part wants connection, tenderness, passion, présence. The other panics at stability, consistency, engagement. This inner contradiction creates chaos — not out of cruelty, but out of fear of choosing. And here’s the paradox: trying to avoid drama by avoiding clarity often creates the very drama people claim to hate. There is nothing poetic about emotional ambiguity. Real peace comes from knowing where you stand — même quand c’est inconfortable. La vérité est simple. Yes?

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xndrxs 8 months

sometimes I forget how fucking pretty I am

zayn 7 months

don’t fucking piss me off, OH MY GODDDDDDD WHAT IS THIS, DID THEY JUST SAY ITS SUPPOSED TO BE JUST A SUMMARY AND TALK ABOUT THEIR EXAMS???? BRUH

lax 8 months

674 I think we’re all a little afraid to let anyone new come into our lives because it can change things in ways we can’t predict…yet we all crave new connections and get excited by them.. Stepping outside of comfort zone takes courage

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aphrodite.aphroditus 8 months

I refuse to accept a future in which we (trans women-Black/African American and Latina trans women) are subjugated and repressed.

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muffyn 7 months

Happy New Years to everyone, hopefully you achieve those goals, meet new people, and become successful in every aspect of your lives, give good the way you want it 🩷🫶🏼💅

alvaroreinoso 8 months

Anyone got an extra ticket for Ariana Grande in London? 😪

chrisgardener 8 months

You never know the pain someone is hiding behind a smile, sometimes it’s easier to say I’m fine and carry on than to admit the truth.

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datboi_ash 8 months

I still haven’t been able to watch ep 5 of heated rivalry 😭😭😭

unboxitabe 8 months

I love and hate winter Pros: 1. Cute Christmas decor 2. The Holidays 3. Snowmen 4. The aesthetic Cons: 1.Gloomy weather 2. Seasonal Depression 3.nasty funks 4. Being the only person single at the holiday party

marcelek 8 months

Hey everybody! 🎟️ What’s your best self-care Sunday morning routine? I’m curious if I could steal some of your ideas for myself 🐣

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jkuptwo2 8 months

I don’t chase chemistry. I wait for mutual curiosity.

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datboi_ash 8 months

I love this app so much I can be so free here and be myself without hiding anything even tho I’m just hidden away in the real world but this app made me feel alive and helped me in ways I couldn’t possibly thought will be helpful for me so thank you everyone

lax 8 months

671 Went to my sister in law’s for a Christmas dinner, it was nice but i ended up so exhausted from all the moving around through the day

datboi_ash 8 months

Let’s talk about RED WHITE ROYAL BLUE

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sailormars 8 months

Somebody once told me You don’t earn anything by playing small. And that stuck with me forever

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fridi105 8 months

To my bilingual friends: What have you found is the best way to learn a new language? I’ve been doing Duolingo daily just to do something with no financial investment. But, I’d like to invest in something that has better results. Is there a program that you found helpful, in person classes etc. Keep in mind, I only speak English. I’d love to move to another country for a few months and pick things up but that’s not an option yet. 😌

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helloitsgui 7 months

we should totally bring back the blogs

lax 8 months

672 Kinda knowingly did the mistake of going somewhere cheap to cut my back and sides, cause it was starting to bother me and I didn’t wanted to look messy for the holidays Oh well, at least my hair grows rather fast

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fusionvision 8 months

Do we all have NPD in current eras?

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psaltair 8 months

when you smiled at me // something changed in my brain chemistry

datboi_ash 8 months

Why do I feel like there are straight men on this app pretending to be gay👀🫢

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zayn 7 months

looking back at my pics, am i a shape shifter for real

psaltair 8 months

every good thing comes my way

amz 7 months

Happy New Year! Wishing you all the best for 2026. 🎉

madebyhamza 8 months

attended a focus group hosted by one of my design hero’s and now she knows me by my name 😫 (tried really hard to not fan girl in front of random strangers)

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studiokervo 8 months

As a fellow know it all, in order to avoid being absolutely insufferable, it’s okay to play dumb sometimes and let other people teach you things you already know :)

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milly 8 months

Jacob Elordi always looks like he’s about to tell you a fun little secret

datboi_ash 8 months

YESSS EP 5 of heated rivalry is here

azam 8 months

sailormars 8 months

Journaling prompt: wouldn’t you be happier if you loved what you think it’s unloveable about yourself?

djbacchanalia 8 months

Hello my cuties on my tiny screen! What are your holiday plans?

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jkadz 7 months

auld lang syne to those who celebrate

harmsy2 7 months

Need a man to love me as much as Fruma Sarah loved her pearls

lax 7 months

662 Getting back to routine after all these break and holiday is gonna be tough That said, went for the usual rings classes and managed to pull some aerial aerobics off

strawbrry 8 months

got ghosted by a freelance client at a time when I need financial stability the most.

akai 8 months

I spent years feeling alone in relationships. Not because love was missing, but because I wasn’t really letting myself be seen. Not fully. Not in real time. What’s changing that for me isn’t more sharing — it’s more curiosity. The kind that stays present when it’s easier to perform. The kind that makes space for real connection, even when it’s a little messy. I’m working on a project about this right now — how relational curiosity might be the missing skill in how we love, listen, and relate. If this touches something in you, I’d love to hear your experience: When have you felt unmistakably seen in a relationship — or quietly unseen, even when everything looked “good”? Just collecting thoughts, patterns, language. No pressure. Just dialogue and maaaaybe some beta testing :)

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jarrodt83 7 months

If I asked this boy at the gym to wrap his legs around my head, respectfully, think he’d be offended?

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lax 8 months

678 Out of the blue, felt a strong longing for him… maybe because Christmas is nearing the corner and everyone seems to be with their close ones and I think I have been unconsciously avoiding that…

silasg 8 months

Is it a post-30s crisis to feel out of place with friendships and have the desire to meet new people, new vibes, a change of scenery?

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axl 8 months

Happy Christmas Collective! Sometimes it may not feel like it but, you are seen. You are loved. You matter.

tristian 8 months

Fashion went harder when full-blown orientalism was not recognized as a cancellable offence. Tom Ford and John Galliano were going offfff

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lax 8 months

676 for some reason, sometimes, I write a post and then forget to press post and then it goes away I remember my Tuesday post : went out with the gymnastic rings group to have a drink and realise how socially inept I was :/..oh well

michenoble 8 months

Gotta spend £300 on my car tomorrow, I’m not a racer girl (I am lowkey) my car just won’t start

southerncowrie 8 months

Wanting the Christmas spirit but got the spirit of a Jezebel instead🫩

rose.in.blooom 8 months

Anyone else feeling not very christmassy this year? I’ve literally got all the gifts last minute because it’s felt like Christmas is a while away even though it’s not long AT ALL 🎄🤦🏻‍♀️

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duplesis 8 months

In a world where being authentic is the ultimate goal, isn’t getting messy, misunderstood, underrated and such a term misused? Striving for being genuine is a higher standard. Comes from within, and honestly is so hard to find that kind of gem these days, almost becoming rare if I may. Don’t come looking for the things I can’t offer, however, I gladly share. Again: Happy Holidays. With love, Frank.

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