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Limiting beliefs are childish- Hear me out: They come from your childhood, and your justification of them makes you look like a kid. In fact you act like a child when you’re fixated in your limitations. Why? Because that’s what you’ve learned, and it’s wired in your subconscious. You identify with lack because you probably saw your parents identify with it, you feel unloveable because your parents didnt know how to love you. And because you still live from that place that’s all you see and experience. Let go of the past, set yourself free and go live your life like an adult. You can make more money than your parents did, you get to love who you choose to be with, you get to feel good about yourself simply because you exist! Talk to yourself like an adult, you get to define what type of adult you become. If you don’t know how to be one, that’s where the work begins Besos 💋
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🗽 nyc collective: stylist here looking to collab and meet other fashion industry people. Let's create 🖌️📸🧣 !!
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📆“Before December comes to an end” it reminds us that everything happens for a reason. Take the moments of happiness as positive energy. See the moments of discomfort as lessons to learn from. When the final month of the year passes, we realize that we’ve grown — one more year, one more step forward.✌🏻💕 Cr. The Black Book of MANIFEST
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There are so many beautiful boys everywhere. ☺️
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already blocked one AI-thirst trap poster today 🤩 merry xmas eve
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If you don’t choose me, I won’t choose you. It’s easy, don’t fall in love with people for whom you are not a priority. Period
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imma need yall to post more because I’m here liking things from 3 months ago
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DID YOU MISS MEEEEEE
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Alr this is question is for the ppl who are Christian and believe in Jesus and also loves other men I’m struggling with this and Im always confused whether it’s ok to love another man or is it a sin or what Because how can loving someone be a sin when it’s not lust or anything And plus the other person helped me to get better understanding of God and his love for us Pls help me understand and not more confused or misleaded And no this is a public everyone can have a say in it I’m not judging or anything or whatsoever I just need answers 🍁
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661 Can’t believe today is the last day of 2025…
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Watching heated rivalry and reflecting back I was Scott in my relationship and I’m so grateful that made the decision that my freedom and happiness was more important than what anyome thought of me and my relationship. It changed my life forever.
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People get to love your light when you embrace your shadows
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Very sad to hear about the passing of adult male actor Lane V Rogers aka Blake Mitchell. He passed away today from a motorcycle accident. In the healthcare system motorcycles are also called donorcycles because th victims are almost always candidates for organ donation. May he rest in peace. He was only 31 years old.
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I’m so weird that I genuinely laugh at the ridiculous things that pop into my head sometimes. 🙃
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Someday soon we all will be together…in a sauna hopefully 🥵
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Do you talk to the people you often see at your local gym? I keep to myself but I did talk to someone and they were cool. However, you miss 1 day of saying, “hey” cuz some days you just want to keep to yourself or its a rough day and that person suddenly doesn’t want anything to do with you😂. Like damn bro who hurt you?
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These are not nails, they’re relics I’ve welded to myself. Real stones, the kind the earth had to suffer : heavy, unpolished, stubborn. I let them stay raw, because refinement is a cheap trick for people who fear reality. Silver clings around them like metal scraped off a broken machine, as if luxury was never meant to be smooth. I don’t wear glitter, I wear geological evidence as proof that something precious can exist without behaving nicely. Let everyone chase polish and symmetry; I’m busy dragging minerals straight from the dirt to my hands. If beauty has no meaning, then at least let it be rare, heavy, and older than every opinion in the room. I don’t decorate myself. I carry artifacts.
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Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the train station theory - this idea that life is a journey where everyone you meet is a passenger. Some only sit beside you for a few stops, others stay a little longer, and a few ride with you until the very end. It’s a simple metaphor, but it’s changed how I see people and the role they play in my life. For so long, I tried to hold on-wanting certain connections to last forever, replaying moments in my head, wondering what went wrong when people drifted away. But the truth is, not everyone is meant to stay for the whole journey. Some are there to teach you something, to remind you of who you were at that stop, before you moved forward. There’s a strange kind of peace that comes with that acceptance. You stop chasing, stop questioning, stop trying to make temporary people permanent. It’s not about losing people anymore; it’s about learning to appreciate the ones who choose to stay, even when they have every reason to leave. Those few who remain seated beside you-not because they have to, but because they want to. And those are the ones worth cherishing. 🫧
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665 Got too busy escaping and running away from life and into the game that I missed out on the whole day
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More connected than ever, yet more isolated than ever. We’re constantly connected, and increasingly alone. Connection has never been easier but loneliness has never been louder.
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Meu timão 🤍🖤 ganhou a copa do Brasil hojeee
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“I’m coming to the cottage”
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All I want for Christmas is my Collective Crush
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675 I can’t believe I voluntarily took up an extra shift to work tomorrow…. Also expecting some news tomorrow..hope it’s good
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time to clock in at the five finger discount self-check out at the mega conglomerate grocery store
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getting a memorial tat for my friend tomorrow 💉❤️
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My body count resets every new year.
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I’m sorry but after watching episode four of heated rivalry I don’t know what to say but it’s always the woman getting involved between two men in love Like seriously rose back off Ilya was his first not urs look what u have started between them beach 😭😭 AND SECOND OF ALL WHATS HAPPENING WITH SCCOT AND KIP 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
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turning this page into a heated rivalry fan acct
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Lowkey sometimes can’t be on this app cuz everyone looks so fit and the comparison mindset starts kicking in. Why does everyone look like they’re a part of the heated rivalry cast? This is like Grindr but with full body pics😊😂😢
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For all you buff boys, what’s the best first step to losing fat and gaining muscle?
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Someone get me a Indian muscular dude 😭
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what's your favorite unorthodox cooking / baking / kitchen hack? I'll go first 🧶
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we used to be poetic as a society—poets were able to long and it not be called limerence
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please de-influence moving to NYC for me bc im so close to just doing it
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Gym people, thinking back to when you started how long did it take before you looked in a mirror and first noticed your progress
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Not me missing my stop bc I was reading heated rivalry on the train.. 😭
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assault can be wrong. bullying can be wrong. but someone’s personhood cannot be wrong. An individual’s appearance, voice, mannerisms, etc. cannot be wrong.
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Two reference books later and I can continue sewing my project. Super excited to start utilizing vintage couture techniques to put this piece together! 🤩
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Why does the search function on everything suck so bad now?
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Just realized that 5’5 is the 5’10 of the real short kings. Come on, you can’t all be 5’5. Lol
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It’s wild how certain people touch something in you they were never built to hold. And the disappointment hits not because you needed them, but because for a moment you believed the connection could be bigger than it was. These feelings don’t break me — they just reveal more of who I am, what I want, and why I keep loving.
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Damn you Christmas! I cannot stop eating junk!
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It’s very simple: I chant, u vogue
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timothée chalamet dating kylie jenner makes perfect sense because like most white boys in new york city he’s overtly trying to emulate black culture.
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A heartbreak that’s not happened but a heartbreak for being single asf😭😭
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The most childish belief in dating: “Nobody would pick someone like me” “Guys don’t seem to like guys like me” Grow up! You’re worthy of love. Stop looking for it in the wrong places. Attention is not love, And performance is not connection
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Next time you’re on a dating app ask yourself — Am I here because I need attention? Or because I’m actually looking for love? Don’t criticize yourself for the answer, just observe. You’ll understand why you reply to some people and why you avoid some. Besos 💋
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have you ever seen someone disappear? i mean truly disappear. right before your eyes; day by day, hour by hour, fading away until there’s nothing left. nothing of who they were still here. have you truly watched someone disappear? if you have, you know that you start to disappear, too.
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Where are my Heated Rivalry folks? 🏒 🥅
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Some gentrifying transplants went semi-viral recently for being number 1 and 2 on beli in my hometown and I want to make an account just to dethrone them
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gay guys, how did you make and maintain queer male friendships in real life? did this help you find your community?
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My gifs aren’t animating after I post them here. 😭 Is anyone else experiencing this? @cal?
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I have no idea how old the characters in Heated Rivalry are supposed to be. High school? College? 30s? Help.
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The danger of white liberals is that those invested in maintaining power, those who see their whiteness as property will be in spaces that purport to move toward equity and will only take and use the constructs that benefit their project. This is dangerous because it sounds and looks like equity and inclusion but people of the global majority (see:people of color) are silenced—and only allowed to speak and be known in distorted ways (Dotson). They (white liberals) may even co-opt the very narratives, theories, constructs posed by the oppressed and use it to their benefit—while the livelihoods of those whose narratives were co-opted remain unchanged.
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Going to see my dad today and I want to actually dress masc for the first time around him.. let’s see how that goessss 🙃
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666 Trying to get back to the usual routine now
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i love the feeling of getting “clearer” as you get older, like with each year there’s less room for messing around or pretending or playing a game with something you know deep in your heart is not right for you. it’s like your brain just gets better and better at cutting you off as you consider something and tells you “no that is not for me” before you can jump in. and it’s not as if things get more serious, but the opposite. you have freedom in giving yourself more and more permission to purposefully live life and go after whatever you want and to love freely knowing that things are secure in your heart and mind.. at least when i am struggling i know that the “clearing” is really what’s happening
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My greatest weakness: gingers and men with a tooth gap 😮‍💨😮‍💨
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