axl 7 months

I have zero trust for people who dislike mangoes.

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zayn 7 months

You confused me, my love, mixed me up with your other whores, didn’t you? You tangled our stories because my writing looks like theirs, sounds like theirs, bleeds like theirs. One of your whores, am I? Stunning, my love. Why don’t we make it official and start a little writing club? Call it the lovely man and his heavenly whores. We’d write hymns about you! your beauty, the twitch of your tongue when you say one of our names wrong, the way your hair jerks like it’s been touched by a ghost when one of us feels too much like another. We’d describe you the way Nietzsche described truth: a prostitute, despised and worshipped in the same breath, dragged through language until you shine. Darling, can’t you see it? Can’t you see what you’re doing to your muses? To us? To the whores you keep summoning with every careless flick of your charm?

southerncowrie 7 months

That growl in Beyoncé’s voice in Ring the Alarm. Mother.

azam 7 months

To trust or not to trust people is a choice, and I choose not to trust

zayn 7 months

The first voice was the heart, remember? That trembling little martyr whispering, use me, ruin me, I’ll pretend it’s love if you pretend to care. Now comes the second voice, the body’s voice, rawer, hungrier, stripped of metaphor, offering itself up with the same doomed devotion but without the poetry to cushion the fall. Same machinery, different angle. Same altar, different sacrifice. Together they sketch the whole delirious circuitry we pretend not to worship, desire looping into power, power looping into need, need looping into that soft, parasitic prostitution we all practice in the dark. Don’t look away, you know exactly what I mean. It’s in you too, that little engine of ache and transaction, that gorgeous ugliness we dress up as romance or rebellion or “just being human.” You can feel it humming under your ribs right now, can’t you? That secret economy of wanting and being wanted, of offering and being taken, of giving yourself away just to see who bothers to pick you up. Don’t lie to me, I’m talking about us.

csg101 7 months

Kinda sad I won't be in LA anymore because of my clients and friends I've made here. But kinda relived I won't have a 4 hour commute anymore

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datboi_ash 7 months

WHEN WILL IT BE MY TURN TO HAVE A HOT FUCKING BOYFRIEND 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

.gio 7 months

The best New Year's resolution I ever made was to start devouring all my nicest things, and save no small pleasure for an unspecified future. Now I burn the good candles, wear my nicest clothes, scribble imperfectly in pretty notebooks. You can't pin joy like a moth.

lav 7 months

Question for bottoms, why are you so anti vers? Like you do realize a guy that can bottom makes for a better top right?

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petros97 7 months

I love the idea of a cozy movie night, but I actually don’t really like watching movies… that’s the struggle 🫠🥸

badis 7 months

Let’s see if 2026 will provide aforementioned spit roast

datboi_ash 7 months

Well I got good news

shearpaint 7 months

Someone once asked me why do I identify as nonbinary. All I could say was, “I’d rather not use any pronouns, because you are assuming and prejudging me rather than getting to know me”

sierramichhh 7 months

Why are the best naps always on public transport

jesse-lee 7 months

This app is interesting. New here from NYC looking for friends

matthemoor 7 months

I’m new here… but we’re just all gay tumblr mutuals in our own app right?

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zayn 7 months

Lust for life, not a sin, not a shame, but the pulse that drags me back from the abyss. Plato, forgive me. I will not exile desire to shadows. Augustine, forgive me. I will not call the body a prison. Schopenhauer, forgive me. I will not curse the will that burns in me. I have failed you all, because I chose the fever over the silence, the hunger over the hollow calm. I lust, therefore I live. I ache, therefore I endure. I want, therefore I am. And if this is weakness, then let me be weak forever, for in weakness I find the only strength that keeps me alive.

thotanist 7 months

Had a dream I was buying desserts for my pretty Italian boyfriend - waking up has never been sadder 😭

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saykwahn 7 months

And sometimes I put “ELI6”because I’m not a dumbass

milly 7 months

Can’t believe I wasn’t born into wealth. Fucked up.

leo.nardo.r 7 months

Cried watching “heated rivalry” and still do watching tiktoks about it

milly 7 months

Mad funny how Justin Bieber is the same age as me. We bullied the absolute shit out of that music in high school. Public school in a shit ass town laughing at a fkn 15 year old millionaire hahahahaha

zayn 7 months

It is a strange delirium. to ache for oneself, to hunger for a shadow already dissolved. Which self? The boy who believed, the man who doubted, the dreamer who danced until dawn? Perhaps all of them, perhaps none. That is the secret. we are shards, splinters of a mirror scattered across time, each fragment catching a different light, each insisting it is the whole. And so we wander, missing ourselves, yet never knowing which ghost we mourn.

yeuris 7 months

I don’t want people to complain at the end of 2026 when the person they said they were going to leave behind in 2025 was the person who broke them again in 2026 too. Stand tf up!

aian 7 months

To all my readers out there! Any book recs? Fiction or non fiction! Looking for something to read after LESS

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christian 7 months

In São Paulo and Rio in Feb (6–16). @bendavidwhite and I would love any recommendations for great coffee, art, and things we shouldn’t miss. And if anyone’s around to say hi, we’d love that too ❤️‍🔥

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juanessanabria 7 months

Escucharás tu corazón latir muy rápido. Y también, muy cerca, el de alguien más. Verás la oscuridad —viciosa, desconcertante—, a veces obsesionada consigo misma, claustrofóbica. A veces excitante, la experiencia inasible de aquello por conocer, el pulso sensual de una cuerda a punto de ceder. Percibirás la gravedad liviana de lo divino en el río oscuro donde se aprende a nadar, donde los ciegos descubren el alivio de que todas las direcciones regresan al mismo lugar. Fluirás sin coordenadas ni horario; lo arbitrario lo quema el corazón. Después —o mientras tanto—, bailarás. Más allá del cansancio, bailarás con el ritmo exacto que nace del encuentro entre un latido y un beat, y en esa danza instintiva sabrás que tú y la vida se rozan, desafiantes y cómplices, porque para eso —y sólo para eso— tienes pies para bailar.

milly 7 months

I love fangirls and furries and nerds and conventions and fan fic authors and the internet.

zander 7 months

If you’re not sweating like you jumped in the pool… I don’t want it

ilanzo333 7 months

oftentimes what we feel intense disgust or repulsion for indicates a desire we secretly want to like but feel shame for liking it, so the psyche fragments this part of you and uses repulsion as a way of protecting you from letting yourself want that desire.

dadjoke 7 months

Entering 2026, I noticed something curious: Sometimes the loudest statements are made in silence. For years, I explained too much — what I wanted, why I was tired, where I felt wronged. Looking back now, the answers were always there. I had simply buried them under unnecessary words. I understand this now: Life doesn’t reward those who speak the most, but those who observe carefully. In 2026, I treat myself like a case to be solved. I examine my emotions without accusing them. I don’t deny my fears, but I don’t let them take control either. Most people turned out to be more innocent than I expected. Some, more calculated. But the greatest revelation was about myself. The most intricate mystery, it seems, is the one we keep locked inside our own hearts. This year, I make no grand declarations. Only quiet decisions — clear, deliberate, and impossible to undo. 2026 is not a beginning for me. It is a resolution.

avatar.isaac 7 months

do you ever get to the point with so many messages you need to pull the laptop out ? Bc same

atheo 7 months

“Society, as we have constituted it, will have no place for me, has none to offer; but Nature, whose sweet rains fall on unjust and just alike, will have clefts in the rocks where I may hide, and secret valleys in whose silence I may weep undisturbed. She will hang the night with stars so that I may walk abroad in the darkness without stumbling, and send the wind over my footprints so that none may track me to my hurt: she will cleance me in the great waters, and with bitter herbs make me whole”. -Oscar Wilde

zayn 7 months

And I’m awake, abruptly, almost violently, with a different weather system moving through me than the one I had ten minutes ago. It’s absurd how quickly my inner climate mutates, how a single moment can tilt the whole atmosphere. It wasn’t him, not really, it was the way my brain seized on the sensation, the way it spun a tiny spark into a whole forecast. It’s not serious, not profound, not even particularly meaningful. Yet something in me flickered, that familiar thrill of discovery, even when there’s nothing to discover. My mind loves that trick. It loves inventing significance where there’s only coincidence, loves pretending it’s stumbled onto a secret when really it’s just hungry for stimulation. So here I am, suddenly charged, suddenly alert, suddenly rearranged, not because of him, but because of the way my own thoughts sprint ahead of me, eager to build a narrative out of the smallest shift in temperature. It’s ridiculous. It’s human. And it’s mine.

0beron_0restes 7 months

I can’t afford it anyway but damn…the orange iPhone 17 Pro Max is HIDEOUS, especially this big camera island taking up like a third of the phone’s back

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silveraccordlx 7 months

In my Desmond Voyage era

datboi_ash 7 months

Let me hear yall love story

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anseo 7 months

I caught up with an old friend today that I haven’t seen since we were both 18. For three entire hours we yapped, howled with laughter and shared some pain. After we parted I was struck by how my energy levels were not drained in the slightest. I *always* feel tired after socialising but with her? Not at all. Part of growing up really is getting better at noticing who/what energises you and holding it closer.

lax 7 months

650 Watch traitors the other night.. it is exciting to catch it with friends

sierramichhh 7 months

Why is my boss asking me to do shit

levaux19 7 months

I try to convince myself that I'm fine being single and I'm better alone as an independent adult Twink on his late teens, but then I see a cute gay couple in the street and the only thing I can think is... (T_T)

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xserg 7 months

2026: I enjoy solitude and I’m fulfilled by my friendships and chosen family. Romantic connection isn’t a priority for me right now, and I’m not one to organize my life around outside obligation. I’m open to connection when it’s articulated, consensual, and honest about intent and capacity. I’m not closed off to partnership. I’m simply refusing to collaborate with love that requires me to disappear.

badis 7 months

Donde están las twunks? Afaf

sailormars 7 months

Journaling 101: The reason why you’re chasing is because you’re looking to confirm that what you believe about yourself isn’t true. Ex: when you are obsessed over someone being with you, the reason you want their approval so badly is so that you can finally confirm that you’re worthy of being with somebody you consider attractive. “Which then would make you attractive” But the truth is that the faster you let go off that need. The easier it will be for you to see your own value.

delaccort 7 months

Does anyone actually even come on here to make new connections… or should I stick to using Grindr to make friends……. Lmao

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hawthorne 7 months

any new music i should listen to?

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chaseb 7 months

Tell me the worst joke you know.

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lax 7 months

640 Reminder that life is based on your actions and inactions, so maybe take those actions you have been thinking about..

jhojanstv 7 months

I feel a little boomer using this app, I’m so lost 🥹

bratzboygee 7 months

This year I think i’ll be getting rid of social media.

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alextep 7 months

Tell me why a “straight” man (who’s been flirting with me for over a year) would have my number labeled as “home” and his girlfriend as “contact” 😵‍💫💀

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