adamofeden 7 months

I was made to love, not for it.

jwdelao 7 months

What’s the next concert you’ll be attending?

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patrickguzzy 7 months

Is the game rigged?

lilian_vltgr 7 months

I felt so inspired by so many different people recently!!

superdupersimon 7 months

girl, he literally is masc 4 masc let him go

b.g.stalling 8 months

Is there anyone (queer) who privately teaches pottery/wheel throwing in NYC? 🥹 I think I’m developing an obsession. 🏺🪴

milly 7 months

Guys, remember when trump was obsessively tweeting about Robert Pattinson ?

dokiju 7 months

On other dating apps men don’t like me much makes me think what is wrong with me am I ugly which makes me feel insecure. Sometimes I think I’ll never find a man am I the only one that feels this way?

anxo 8 months

Guys I just watched “The History of Sound” and I’m crying af broke my heart in pieces

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thotanist 7 months

Bonding over a shared belief that Tony Blair is a war criminal

tmartsoph 8 months

What’s a good book that you’ve been reading? (Not about the modern era)

milly 7 months

Life’s a performance and I’m aiming for an academy award.

saykwahn 8 months

Random thought 457: What if we replaced the red light in traffic lights with blue lights to keep people awake while driving long distances 🚦

jam0422 7 months

What is your favourite song of the moment?

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masc_y_medio 8 months

Rosalia’s album separates the true artists from the tik tok viral artist.

hearteyes 7 months

Eat zucchini.. eat. zucchini.

eddieward 7 months

there’s only 5 people in my area smhh- this is rural living

unboxitabe 7 months

What’s your favorite hobbie ???

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imtheafterparty 7 months

Oh darling! I haven’t heard from you lately, and I’ve really enjoyed it.

pettygodmother 7 months

‘And when you decide you like yourself, holla at me!’ -Ungodly Hour A word.

burford 8 months

happy new Robyn single release day to all gays over 30

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cgsmithson 7 months

Q. Couple q. who cooks & who cleans? a) both do, take turns. b) one does everything other does nothing. c) together everything is shared.

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benvstheuniverse 8 months

listening to lux after the gym and it’s a november sunday night. ive never been closer to god

cadmian12 8 months

I need people who’ve already read A Little Life. I need to talk about it.

autumnexpected 8 months

What's your favorite Indian dish at the moment? Karala style lamb is mine. Fiery hot and bright chili flavor with a sweet-sour note.

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sailormars 7 months

If you feel unloveable, here’s what I’d recommend: -listen to your heart for 10 minutes a day. Why? Your heart is the only reason you continue to exist, if you want some answers go there 😉

unboxitabe 7 months

What are you most excited about this holiday season!

pach 7 months

just let me hold on to this dream that I had lie to me and say you believe it exists, my love cause I’m in love…

kingbabyp 8 months

Is it possible that dating just… sucks because it’s human? I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to date. I think we’ve just made the whole thing feel like a moral test — if you text too slow, you’re unavailable; if you text too much, you’re needy. But most of the things people get frustrated about happen in the first week or two of meeting someone, when both sides are just observing, figuring out chemistry, and deciding what fits. It’s not wrong — it’s trial and error. Dating feels terrible because it’s the action of trying to connect, and that alone goes against how real connection usually happens — organically. Think about your best friendships: they probably didn’t start with strategy, they started with energy, timing, or chance. But now dating happens in the most inorganic spaces possible — apps, DMs, schedules, algorithms. It’s no wonder it feels awkward. And yes, communication matters — but so does capacity. Sometimes people vanish, and sometimes they circle back two weeks later and it actually means something. That doesn’t make them evil; it makes them human. We’re so focused on finding “the one” that we forget to just have fun, stay curious and enjoy the process.

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serenawilliams 8 months

still feeling so mentally exhausted and i haven’t had an drugs or alcohol in almost 4 full days. it’s incredible how long the comedown lasts. if only i could bottle up how horrible this feels, the guilt and shame that comes with it - so i can dip into this feeling before i walk to my dealer’s house every time.

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thatonelankyboy 7 months

Lemme put you on y’all cuz y’all ain’t LISTENINGGGG

thatonelankyboy 7 months

Some mf is stanking up the damn bus 💀

serenawilliams 8 months

about to hit 7 days drug and alcohol free .

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itsjacobedmonds 7 months

Grey sweatpants make me feral

akai 8 months

This year instead of giving presents, I'm giving everyone my opinion 👹

domb 7 months

so… y’all like boys? 👉🏾😗👈🏾

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curated_by_marc 8 months

“isn’t it weird that poets just keep going around noticing nature and not ever noticing that nature is shrinking? To read these poems you would think the world was as full of nature as it ever was even though in the last forty years so many animals and habitats have been wiped out. How come they don’t notice that? How come they don’t notice everything that’s been annihilated? If they’re so into noticing things? I look around and all I see is the world being ruined. If poems were true they’d just be about walking through a giant graveyard or a garbage dump.” Excerpt From The Bee Sting by Paul Murray

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akai 7 months

You’re on your own, this is your one ride. Be here, burn bright, feel it all, flow, hold nothing back. No half-heart, no half-light. With every breath: give it all 🔥

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apollo_noir 7 months

It’s almost boyfriend time

ajek_0555 7 months

I am real. I am raw. I am flawed. I am.. human. -Me

milly 8 months

Taylor Swift ‘friendship bracelets’ did irreparable damage to the rave, scene and emo community hahahaha

moh_01 8 months

Hey there! 🌈 I’m so glad to have found this space, especially now that Grindr’s gone from the UK — feels like a fresh start! I’m a 24-year-old Asian guy — gay, chubby, and totally fashion-oriented. I love exploring new foods and experiences (my brain’s always cooking something new — sometimes even my traumas 😂). I’m looking for someone genuine, kind, and respectful — someone who values feelings and connection over perfection. If that sounds like you, say hi — I’d love to get to know you. 💬

aphrodite.aphroditus 8 months

“In political moments how we build the world with each other actually draws us into our collective struggle” -Kristie Dotson

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vale 8 months

The thing about having too many choices on dating apps is that, in the end, we don’t end up choosing anyone, we’re always looking for someone better. But is there even a better one? ☠️👀

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very_damier 8 months

Choosing the dating option based off of looks alone is the quickest way to disappointment. It’s rumored that physical attraction only lasts about 4 to 8 weeks, anything after that is genuine connection. Now im not saying physical attraction isn’t important, but it should not be the end all be all. Trust your instincts. The way they make you feel is way more important than the way they look.

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very_damier 8 months

I also need to start posting more in here! I saw all the abbed up men’s and was like oh another reminder of how our standards of attraction hasn’t changed one bit! Yay progress!!! But the right attitude is life is what you make it. If you want to see change, don’t bitch about it, be the change you want to see. So the era of hot, gay, perfection is over! It’s time for messy, authentically flawed, no where near perfect era to come through!!

southerncowrie 8 months

I need to be put through a mattress, eating some soup, sipping a glass of Cabernet, and cuddled up right now

avatar.isaac 7 months

I hate how yoga studios put people so close together, like how am I supposed to be thinking ‘expansively’ if I can’t even extend my arm fully without bumping into someone 😔

monsieurpoppi 7 months

I love being alone. So if I want you around, I love your energy…

milly 8 months

Robert Pattinson really just lies for fun and I love him for that

nico-laos 7 months

today at work was terrible, holiday season is starting and I’m already losing my mind. People expecially customers are so disrespectful :( like?? we’re not saving lives??? hello??

gavinakagriffin. 8 months

Anyone else catch themselves do this? Me: Think on so many topics, of interest and not of interest. To the point, your to aware of self and many other topics. The brain just keeps thinking, even when you wanna stop thinking. Anyone else? Reply if so.

jarrodt83 8 months

When I’m feeling stressed or not in control, I clean & organize. I find it so therapeutic.

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toimoiaussi_ 7 months

I don’t post too much. My 90,000 photos just demand equal rights to be seen. 😅

aphrodite.aphroditus 8 months

The question is not whether I am a woman or not. The question is whether I, as a transfeminine person, am deserving of equal rights and protection. Let’s start there.

mattbenjammin 7 months

No one told me they were serving 🎂 and 🥩 at the gym this morning 🥵

lax 8 months

Has anyone been to Roast? How’s the music/experience? 707

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