lostinorbit 1 week

Why is finding others hard, I’m generally confused at times with social interactions with others. Sometimes I miss the cues or I’m lost in space before I’m even hearing the next sentence. Though, I blame my ability to connect with others. I’ve only ever been close with my friends since I met them, but I truly need to find better ways to communicate with others, especially in this community.

blu.tone 1 week

Butch Cassidy and The Sundance Kid. That’s it That’s the tweet 🥵

p.ierre 2 weeks

Are we at the age where we have youtuber nepo babies?

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notmath 1 week

I wish I could summon some friends and have them here at home now for a movies night.

maisondemason 3 weeks

Anyone on a total reading binge right now? I feel like I’m back up and even past my pre-Covid book count. Currently on Maggie O’Farrel’s HAMNET but have absolutely loved the last three I’ve read. Throw your recommendations / book covers / cute reading boy pics below 👇🏼

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me-piotr 1 week

🌿Botany facts🌿: pteridophyte (ferns, selaginellaceae, lycophyte and horsetail) is not a valid group of plants, since we don’t know about their “kinship relations” and how we can relate it with plants in general; pretty cool, right?!

damarion193 1 week

Good morning!!☀️ how is everyone doing this Sunday ?

eliechammaa 2 weeks

Do gays who buy queer art exist?

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mc94612 1 week

Pride weekend … and I’m going to bed at 10 pm. 🥱

izzywizzystrawberry 2 weeks

I wanna start learning how to sew so I can make my own clothes, I wanna learn how to crochet cuz it looks very cool, I wanna start oil painting (the crayons) and learning Thai

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adampatryk 3 weeks

Navigating polyamory alone (ironically) has been really difficult. I have no one close to me that have this experience, and a very heterocentered friend group. If anyone want to connect on this journey and share their experiences with me maybe we can help each other 🥲❤️

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lav 3 weeks

Not sure this will reach anyone since I’m not a “premium” member but I live a pretty sober life other than little wine here and weed there. Living a predominantly sober life complicates dating and just generally meeting other men specially in our community where heavy drugs seems to be glamorized. How do you navigate this if you’re sober?

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jbenjamin 2 weeks

What ever happened to chat rooms?

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jeandoe 1 week

If a guy was as persistent as collusive is at at trying to my money I would be married with kids. 🤣

ronika 1 week

How to travel when you are young and broke, but enthusiastic?☀️

water-lilies 3 weeks

participated in my first queer bookclub last week and was approached by the sweetest girl who wanted to know more about queer history and identity 💕 anyway I recommended A Bánh Mì for Two by Trinity Nguyen, go give it a read for your sweetest wlw romance during pride month !

mahcheeko 2 weeks

I just did a survey at LA Pride and asked people to rate their own attractiveness out of ten. The average was 7.2. I think I’m a 7.5 lol. What would you rate yourself?

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sunbyrne 1 week

Where are the bears (and bear adjacent)?

eglanger18 3 weeks

Ariana is right that anxiety and depression meds can make you feel disconnected from yourself, and for fans who are struggling with body image, the healthiest response is to resist projecting that pain outward and instead redirect it inward with compassion, support, and honest self-reflection. Bodies change, healing is rarely linear, and people do far better when they focus on recovery, stable routines, trusted relationships, and professional help rather than turning their discomfort into judgments about someone else or themselves.

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austbaumer 2 weeks

Just the time to create a community for those of us who are neither conventionally hot nor talented, just painfully average 😭

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thisleerose 3 weeks

Someone I find terribly attractive introduced me to Rosalia and I am swooning over LUX. The whole album is incredible. Have a listen and be ready to weep into your glass of Sauvignon Blanc…

collective 3 weeks

A Big Update to Collective: The neighborhood bar just got a lot more room to talk We're trialing a big upgrade to how members connect and share! We've created a dedicated Discussions Tab. Think of it as the digital version of your favorite neighborhood queer bar where you can talk to other queers about absolutely anything. It’s a dedicated sanctuary for text posts, questions, and community updates. You can now scroll through a focused feed to see what people are actually talking about and join the conversation in real time. The new Discussions tab is available for most people today and rolling out to everyone later this month. We’ve also doubled the character count for text posts to 3,500 characters. You now have the space to share creative manifestos, dive into your artistic process, or describe niche projects in detail. When you can show more of your queer self, you can find your next bestie, collaborators for your next creative "side quest" or professional project. We've also made it much easier to find new people to follow and connect with. You can scroll through the community and see more of a member’s profile before you decide to follow. This improved visibility helps you move past the digital noise and find the matches that actually matter to you. If you aren't seeing these new features yet, don't forget to update the app in the App Store.

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nolan.t.brown 3 weeks

Has anyone read “The Picture of Dorian Gray”? If so, did you also find it awfully boring in the beginning? Wilde is setting up the story and getting the scene set for action I’m assuming, but his prose leaves me wanting for more. The pacing is also slow. Please tell me it gets better 🥹

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izzywizzystrawberry 1 week

Why does everyone ask the same questions here when we get to talking and trying to get to know people like I’ve had the same conversations with people here over and over with different people every day. It’s exhausting lol we gotta find more stuff to talk about

stylianosh 3 weeks

Speedos / swimming briefs recommendations for Eurosummmer 2026??

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nolan.t.brown 2 weeks

Some nights I lie awake Picturing your face in my mind Seeing you smiling back at me Some nights I lie awake Imagining your touch Feeling your arms around my waist Some nights I lie awake Smelling your sweet scent Wishing I wasn’t imagining When I finally give into sleep I continue to imagine you and me Together always In the morning when I wake And my mind is filled with numbers, reports Addresses, complaints, and other people’s Imaginings My heart carries you with me So that when it is time for me to Once again lie awake, my mind Returns to you Filled with all the imaginings Of our immeasurable tomorrows For all the things that are and will be As long as I continue to imagine you and me Imagining a time when there is no imagining I am content with thoughts of us Until we are together at last Imagining no more For @ard_493 🐺🇬🇧 I love you ❤️

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kc717 2 weeks

Dear @collective Can we pretty please with a 🍒 (my fave) on top— get different music sharing platforms? I like that we can share—but Spotify itself leaves a lot to be desired. Take what you will from that, but I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way 👀

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thegraytcreator 1 week

Saw the most beautiful man today on my morning walk

shawnmendes 1 week

Think it’s time to bleach the hair again for summer

betula 3 weeks

idc how many lies people spread about onika tanya maraj i will forever love her.

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zayuh 3 weeks

why do i get lowkey annoyed when men repeatedly slide up on my stories but never actually try to have a conversation or get to know me? like the lack of curiosity is such a turn off

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soupwaylee 2 weeks

the bane of my millennial existence is probably not being able to do certain things on my phone only 🫠 Like - we need to book a flight / hotel? you’ll need to wait until I get back home to my laptop 💀

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ethanraysor 2 weeks

Inspired by @collective to put this out there. I would love to trade and collab on making music with people on Collective, so if you know how to use a DAW and produce/play instruments, I have songwriting abilities and ideas that need help getting a pen to paper with music behind it. I can play basic piano chords but need someone with more experience who wants to make music together. Inspos for writing and sound quality: jazz and alternative pop, folk, singer-songwriter, concept, RAYE, Adele, Amy Winehouse, Lana Del Rey, Joni Mitchell, Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande, Melanie Martinez, Zara Larsson, Mariah Carey, Jordy, David Bowie, Stevie Nicks, Fleetwood Mac, Zee Machine, David Archuleta, Kelly Clarkson, Avril Lavigne, Pink, Kate Bush

mi_khiet 1 week

ask me about funeral director school, messy music industry lore, southeast asian black magic, my restraining order against a deranged taxidermist, or brain/spine surgery

betula 3 weeks

The biggest critics of feminine gays are often the same people who spend the most time insisting they’re masc.

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kuba_k 3 weeks

Do you really count calories everyday to stay lean? 🫠

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eglanger18 3 weeks

Something extremely humbling is realizing that you get to decide what the difference between “irreconcilable” and “indifferent” is.

spacetornado 2 weeks

my way - Olivia Rodrigo on repeat

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pascalmachtpause 3 weeks

Not having friends is hard. But having no one to talk to when you're depressed is even harder.

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sam_handwich 3 weeks

A straight man just told me to smile, and on behalf of all women who have ever existed, I feel the need to apologize for men. They’re the worst.

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betula 3 weeks

P-rn should be illegal, and that’s a conversation a lot of people aren’t ready to have.

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trellisss 2 weeks

do sugar daddies really exist… asking for a friend

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kc717 2 weeks

How is everyone on here so beautiful? It’s so insane. ANGELIC levels of beauty and I love that a lot of you are sharing so many incredible thoughts and moments. ☺️🫰🏽

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wilelizo 2 weeks

any gay/queer connections in nyc or the brooklyn area - i'm really looking to connect and establish new connections and cultivate more genuine intentional connections 🫶🏽

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milly 3 weeks

I keep telling people to watch Ravenous (1999) because the fucking weirdness of it had an odly profound impact on me but everyone thinks I’m joking when I try and explain that it’s a cannibalism western with subtly homoerotic undertones. Like I’m being SO incredibly serious watch that shit it is SO WEIRD (positive). Genuinely loved it so much and I’ve yet to meet someone who has heard of it for some reason.

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fridi105 4 weeks

We have a couple next-door who are in their 90s and live alone. A couple months ago, I had to pick up the husband after he fell and this morning I had to pick up the wife after she fell in the kitchen. All I know is, all this working out at the gym has been damn useful and not just for me. ❤️😊

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jeandoe 2 weeks

Who gave collective permission to call me babe.. I’m blushing.

chrisgardener 2 weeks

We are always waiting for someone else to make the changes we want to see in the world but maybe it’s time we all become the change we want to see

santiagoadorno 1 week

"My heart doesn't beat. It tunes."

space 3 weeks

didn’t fucking recognize perfume genius standing next to me pathetic

collective 4 weeks

Are sports becoming as queer as we want? Everyone's obsessed with the French Open right now, and honestly, it’s about time. Between the red clay and the high stakes, it’s hard not to think about that final match in Challengers being some of the best sex ever seen on screen. With the Heated Rivalry series fueling the fire, sports are finally as queer as we’ve always wanted them to be. Even though Joao Lucas Reis da Silva was eliminated in the qualifying rounds on May 20, he still made history as the first out man to play French Open qualifying. While we wait for more out men to break through the main draw, queer women like Daria Kasatkina and doubles pro Demi Schuurs are holding it down. Plus, Naomi Osaka is basically turning the court into her own archival fashion show with her custom kits. Is our whole message of friendship and community on Collective not hitting? Find yourself a friendly rival instead. You need someone to push your buttons and force your hand to be the better tennis player. Whether you’re there for the deuce or just the advantage, finding a partner to play with is a win-win situation.

onlyfans.scotty 2 weeks

How do you solve a problem like Maria?

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lav 3 weeks

Somedays I wake up and I’m over it.

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