thotanist 9 months

‘In case it matters… [insert position]’ on a hinge profile - like, you’re clearly the one it matters to otherwise you wouldn’t write it???

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carter-jay 8 months

Could my face not break out thanks

sierramichhh 9 months

Hinge’s “most compatible” feature was specifically engineered to piss me off

nikolai 9 months

And this one is for my fellow immigrants. How do you heal this awful trauma you get from immigration? I’ve been an immigrant for 2.5 years, I basically had to flee my country and I’ve spent so much time and energy trying to assimilate in Spain. But at this moment I just feel like I’m just exhausted? And even though I really want it and I’m closer than ever, I still have this awful emptiness and loneliness from not having anyone really close around who would accept me fully or hug me when I really need it, or help me when I don’t understand a thing or just sick/tired. And there is a chance I might never get such person (basically, talking about life partner). So how do I get over it? Cause I’ve just spent 25 minutes weeping in the shower. I have friends but I am not sure if they help me covering that emptiness, as it seems.

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juanda 9 months

Hey @cal, I love all the art and cool stuff people post on the app, but I need somewhere to save it. Right now, I just have a convo with a friend where we send each other things we don’t wanna miss 🫣

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sailormars 9 months

If you feel unloveable this is for you, the only reason why you’re in this planet biologically is because deep within you there’s a heart beating to keep you here. Your thoughts might contribute to your survival but at the end of the day your heart has the final say; so if you would stop listening to the noise of your thoughts and you would listen to the sound of your heart you would begin to understand the reason why you’re here. That heart of yours is the one that loves you and wants you here. Not other people 😉

macaw_parrrot 9 months

looking for an owner :3

lav 8 months

I’m convinced that we live in dystopia and we’re entertaining each other to death.

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joseph.nyc 9 months

Anyone playing D4 current season? Should i bother? (I’ve been gone since 2 seasons ago… got bored with mechanics and the fact that sorc got nerfed so bad after spear lightning build became popular)

unboxitabe 9 months

What Perfume or Cologne is your go to smell?

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unboxitabe 9 months

Tell me your Gay under rated fact!?!??

artyomology 9 months

Very random shout-out, but is there any chance I could find some creative people here to help me with animation? (non-gratuit)

piu-piu 9 months

Run me my money

sailormars 9 months

To be loved and respected is healthier, and more fulfilling than to be liked while chasing approval. You don’t need to earn anything to receive love and respect. It’s not something you earn but rather something you give.

zayn 9 months

In these frozen days, I remember the frost of your breath against my skin, perhaps because you never had a body, perhaps because you were born from my own hands, or perhaps because the cold lies within me, and you are nothing more than a mirror of what I’ve buried too deep to touch. So tell me, what are you, really?

avatar.isaac 9 months

Chocolate is just cheese with cacao and sugar

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alvo 8 months

If we’re friends in here, message me 👋🏼☺️

ejridge 9 months

idk if this makes me straight but I just finished watching ted lasso and LOVED it. Such a feel good series in a time of definitely needing some ‘feel good’ vibes. Also kinda in love w Jamie Tartt

lav 9 months

I really need fashion friends to talk shit with because this new CD for JPG is sending me, wth was that!? 😀

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sierramichhh 9 months

What are your housewives conspiracy theories??

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fridi105 9 months

Ending a long term relationship is a pain that no one could have prepared me for. After almost 5 years, our relationship ended yesterday and I’m back at my parents for the time being. Any words of encouragement would be cool, I haven’t been able to eat anything.

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aphrodite.aphroditus 9 months

Queer is an epistemological standpoint .

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annocha 9 months

Filling out medical forms be like: „Any mental illnesses in your family history?“ Well.. That’s been diagnosed? None But the list of undiagnosed mental illnesses in my family is a lot. I mean dayum. But also really sad realization of how many of my family members have been suffering but labeled, crazy, lazy, weird, addicts etc.

milly 8 months

Crying about Dan and Phil again

gregthegoat 9 months

I really love video essay, but this „click“ sound that everybody uses just gets on my nerves so muuuch. But maybe it‘s just my Misophonia again🙈

tyronhewitt 9 months

Gym goers: any tips on bulking? I didn’t realise eating this much food would be a problem haha

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floptor 9 months

"You said I killed you - haunt me, then! Be with me always - take any form- drive me mad! Only do not leave me in this abyss, where I cannot find you!" -Emily Brontë

mrfizzy 9 months

Grindr: Clearance Aisle Edition — The Full Ego Crush Grindr red carpet? Cute. It’s actually a Dettol sponsorship wall with better lighting. 🧴🦠 This app stopped being a place for connection and became the bargain bin of intimacy — free samples, buy-one-get-one regret, and a receipt you’ll hide from your family. 🛒😂 Let’s be blunt: this isn’t just messy behaviour, it’s been systemic. Users have filed mass lawsuits alleging Grindr shared sensitive data — including HIV status — with third parties, and regulators have already fined the company for illegal data-sharing. No influencer backdrop, no PR hand-waving, no glossy yellow step-and-repeat will scrub that stain. Behind the jokes there’s a real, ugly cost. Casual hookups today can become shattered households tomorrow — kids wondering where their parent went, trust dissolved, trauma left to grow in silence. That’s not liberation; it’s collateral damage dressed as “freedom.” (Say that seriously, then laugh.) 🏠💔

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garneto 9 months

no sé usar esto.

callumjkemp 8 months

I honestly need to sort my sleeping schedule out I’m too tired 🥸

grabari 9 months

Would you hit on a cute cashier from the supermarket you go to almost every day? I don’t even know if he’s gay but in my delusion he kinda flirts with me. I can’t lose my Mercadona tho. Should I slip him my number one day and run?

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pepsijenner 9 months

Just quit my weak ass racist ass job! Aaaahhhhh

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niccoloserratt 9 months

I’ve recently been let go from an eight year long career. A career that in many aspects was an identity of mine. I like to see it as a blessing in disguise as I fear that the comfort would have kept me trapped for years to come. Yet, it’s difficult to part ways from something so abruptly and without making peace with the decision before hand. I’m grieving the career that in large part made me who I am today. Any antidotes or recommendations welcome.

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aquaalaa 8 months

Hi gay people in my phone what are we doing this weekend?

vibessedai 9 months

Where are my snowboarders at???

giannni 9 months

why do we run to the ones we do?

sforsavvage 8 months

you see couples everywhere. people kissing, hugging, holding hands. and then there's us. the hopeless romantics. the ones that we know we have so much to give, so much love inside us that goes wasted. cause we have no one to give it to. and we feel sad, empty, incapable of finding someone to receive all this love. and you're constantly wondering, will I ever find someone to love and to love me back?

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nico._kng 8 months

Why are men so hot but so useless ?

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hearteyes 9 months

I need to see HUNTR/X at ACL

gavinakagriffin. 9 months

Dating in gay culture sucks, I can find people who I attract to. But majority of the time, they don’t commit in getting to know me. Or even messaging first to connect, which is even more annoying when it’s a match. I’m trying so hard not to give out on what I want with love, but each day I try apps or socialize. I can’t seem to get anywhere, because majority rather hookup and move to fast. It’s honestly bloody frustrating. Nature I have a question, when will it be my turn to find genuine love and attraction? In a man of my preference as well as a friend.

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sierramichhh 9 months

Gag of the week: guy I met at work and went on a date with turned out to be a tr*mp supporter????? Start the rapture

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felipefandino 9 months

What’s the hardest part of being gay?

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itsjacobedmonds 8 months

Being delusional everyday is so fun. 🤪

alexist1998 8 months

I want Pedro pascal to be my boyfriend. Can I say this here?

przemo 9 months

I’m looking for a running buddy. Anyone? 🏃🏼

cal 9 months

was not expecting t swift discourse to blow up on Collective

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fred.do 9 months

Is anyone considering going to TeleTech at The Cause in December? Never been. I see online it’s an open stadium, is it actually?

jacobkoch__ 8 months

Might be starting a brand or whatever…

jarron 8 months

I’m trying to teach the algorithm something. All my BLACK PEOPLE to the comments please🧚🏾‍♀️✨💖

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kings_world 8 months

Why could everybody on this entire app star on boots

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raelwang 9 months

Focus on my mind

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