domb 9 months

so… y’all like boys? 👉🏾😗👈🏾

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aphrodite.aphroditus 9 months

The question is not whether I am a woman or not. The question is whether I, as a transfeminine person, am deserving of equal rights and protection. Let’s start there.

kingbabyp 9 months

I’ve been thinking a lot about flakiness in dating. I don’t think most people are trying to be careless — I think they’re just trying to manage a lot. Especially those of us who grew up in the 90s, balancing survival, creativity, and emotional capacity in a world that constantly demands more. We say we want connection, and I believe we do. But between work, self-preservation, and the noise of social media, it’s hard to have the energy to start something new. Sometimes people flirt just to feel alive for a second — a dopamine hit in a world that rarely gives back. It’s frustrating on both sides. One person’s trying to invest while job-hunting and staying afloat. Another’s ghosting not because they don’t care, but because they’re spent. I don’t think it’s that people don’t want love — I think we’re all just trying to feel like we still have something left to give.

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eddieward 9 months

there’s only 5 people in my area smhh- this is rural living

pettygodmother 9 months

‘And when you decide you like yourself, holla at me!’ -Ungodly Hour A word.

ajek_0555 9 months

I am real. I am raw. I am flawed. I am.. human. -Me

milly 9 months

Life’s a performance and I’m aiming for an academy award.

curated_by_marc 9 months

“isn’t it weird that poets just keep going around noticing nature and not ever noticing that nature is shrinking? To read these poems you would think the world was as full of nature as it ever was even though in the last forty years so many animals and habitats have been wiped out. How come they don’t notice that? How come they don’t notice everything that’s been annihilated? If they’re so into noticing things? I look around and all I see is the world being ruined. If poems were true they’d just be about walking through a giant graveyard or a garbage dump.” Excerpt From The Bee Sting by Paul Murray

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sam2bh 9 months

how do i get over gym anxiety so i can actually get hotter

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dokiju 9 months

On other dating apps men don’t like me much makes me think what is wrong with me am I ugly which makes me feel insecure. Sometimes I think I’ll never find a man am I the only one that feels this way?

gavinakagriffin. 9 months

Anyone else catch themselves do this? Me: Think on so many topics, of interest and not of interest. To the point, your to aware of self and many other topics. The brain just keeps thinking, even when you wanna stop thinking. Anyone else? Reply if so.

apollo_noir 9 months

It’s almost boyfriend time

akai 9 months

You’re on your own, this is your one ride. Be here, burn bright, feel it all, flow, hold nothing back. No half-heart, no half-light. With every breath: give it all 🔥

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kierra 9 months

Chat chat chat chat 😒

very_damier 9 months

I’m very selective of the music I listen to, I’ve never been an albums person, but going to the gym and listening to an entire album has been very…eye opening. Right now it’s Halsey’s the Great Impersonator.

garza-pinups 9 months

Been almost a full year since my 8 year relationship ended. We ended in Jan, He moved out in July, we stopped seeing each other in Sept. I hate this transition in life because I’m trying to put myself back together. All my pieces of who I am or who I think I am, Cutting myself some slack and giving myself some grace. At least I have a roof over my head, a decent job, good small circle of friends and a possible new career path maybe. Still so much self work to do, I hate that part. The unpacking of the past 8 years. Feeling confused and lost as to who I am now or who I will be naturally growing into next.

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lax 9 months

Has anyone been to Roast? How’s the music/experience? 707

monsieurpoppi 9 months

I love being alone. So if I want you around, I love your energy…

bryan-tino 9 months

Anybody else feel a sense of hope & optimism seeing Zohran elected as nyc’s next mayor?

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thatonelankyboy 9 months

Lemme put you on y’all cuz y’all ain’t LISTENINGGGG

thatonelankyboy 9 months

Some mf is stanking up the damn bus 💀

adamofeden 9 months

I was made to love, not for it.

mattbenjammin 9 months

No one told me they were serving 🎂 and 🥩 at the gym this morning 🥵

lucienzera 9 months

do you ever feel like you’re not enough? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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abdull 9 months

I’m coming out as officially friendless and scared to be on apps for meeting people.

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aphrodite.aphroditus 9 months

“For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. And this fact is only threatening to those [individuals] who still define the master’s house as their only source of support.” -Audre Lorde

sailormars 9 months

If you are the character of the movie that’s liked but never chosen, the way to break the loop is by choosing yourself.

imtheafterparty 9 months

Oh darling! I haven’t heard from you lately, and I’ve really enjoyed it.

strawbrry 9 months

made out with not 1 not 2 but 3 girlies at the gay bar on Saturday while dressed as a squid <コ:彡~~~🎀

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itsjacobedmonds 9 months

Grey sweatpants make me feral

damianhall3 9 months

How is everyone staying sane these days? I Feel like every passsing day has me feeling more crazy than the last

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roast.rescue.repeat 9 months

Anyone else got LUX on a permanent loop today?

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pach 9 months

just let me hold on to this dream that I had lie to me and say you believe it exists, my love cause I’m in love…

avatar.isaac 9 months

I hate how yoga studios put people so close together, like how am I supposed to be thinking ‘expansively’ if I can’t even extend my arm fully without bumping into someone 😔

very_damier 9 months

We’ve finished the great impersonator, now we’re moving in to If I Can’t have love I want power. I fucking love this title!!!

theguysacha 9 months

Accidentally did the “bend and snap” in the gym. Did it work? No. Did I feel fantasic doing it? Yes.

nikola.vukovic 9 months

08:00 in the morning is a critical time for me to be awake. Any other night owls here?

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craigk 9 months

Enjoying this new app, but would appreciate any tips on how to get the most from it, particularly re. looking to make friends in my city? When I look at ‘nearby’, I usually see the same people every time who don’t necessarily have shared interests, I can’t see a way to search by interests to find people with shared interests, and it’s mostly people’s face pics in the suggestions, which isn’t important versus shared interests. There’s no age settings so hard to figure out if people are around the same age bracket.

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paulblaid 9 months

Any music artists in here???

bryan-tino 9 months

You meet certain men who, even if they’re not the “one”, forever raise the bar for every man after.

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haydn-bardoe 9 months

Is it bad to watch Law&Order SVU before bed?…. Asking for a friend…😗

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heljo 9 months

craving a sloppy burger and a redundancy package

allmyfriendsaresuperheroes 9 months

So I actually walked up to someone on the street today to get their number!! So proud of myself, because I would NEVER do something like that 😅

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studiokervo 9 months

When you’re chronically online, it’s so hard to lose your phone because you always notice it’s absence immediately

ddeiv 9 months

i am honestly so proud to have rosalía as my country's leading artist; she is ahead of everyone else.

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luiii 9 months

Can anybody suggest any good shows to binge watch on my free time? I’ve just finished high potential and Abbott elementary and they have left a huge hole in my soul😭

wilfredp 9 months

I’m taking a shot in the dark here, but does anyone have extra Gaga tickets for her Paris show. It’s my bf and I’s anniversary on the 17th…and I’m pretty sure I bought fakes. If you know of anyone who has actual tickets please let me know 🙏🏾

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csg101 9 months

Ok so maybe I should stay sober 😔

grinishrich 9 months

At first, I wanted everything around me to be beautiful — elegant interiors, well-mannered people, and the feeling of belonging among strangers. But it turns out that no matter where you are or what breathtaking landscapes you see, if it’s experienced with a conditional friend or boyfriend, it loses all meaning. Yes, it feels nice not to be surrounded by the roughness that filled most of your life, but there’s no real joy or happiness in it. The most important thing is to be at peace with yourself, in absolute love with who you are — and from that place, create the world around you.

nico-laos 9 months

today at work was terrible, holiday season is starting and I’m already losing my mind. People expecially customers are so disrespectful :( like?? we’re not saving lives??? hello??

serenawilliams 9 months

alright how do i get a boyfriend in this city

avery-ren 9 months

I was going to watch Terrifier 2 last night but that opening scene 😭🤚🏻🤚🏻🤚🏻 that was enough for me.

lax 9 months

Did nothing all day 🤍 705

thotanist 9 months

Omg they’re filming spiderman in my town - Tom Holland is close 👀

milly 9 months

Idk if I’m wrong but has anyone noticed a lot of younger people don’t know a lot of computer basics ? Like I keep having to teach 18-20 year olds basic keyboard shortcuts (like copy paste etc)

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avatar.isaac 9 months

I fear of posting in big socials because I don’t want AI to copy my sparkle

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