goodbadboy 9 months

I’m thinking way too much how I’m being perceived by other people. It’s tiring and annoying. It’s making me rethink things I’ve done or said in the past like I did something wrong. Like I hurt people with my words. How do I stop playing these scenarios in my head and blaming myself for being too honest, too sarcastic, too direct. I am me and I want to live freely and authentically. If people can’t take me well then I’ll find those that can. I am so tired regretting things I’ve done or said to people. The only person I really need to stop being so hard on is myself.

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ivans 9 months

¿Me propones algún plan improvisado?😝

lax 9 months

694 I’m getting really interested in learning about gymnastics specifically the rings, anyone knows where you can pick that up? I want to spin around and do all those turning things just for fun

pierito 9 months

Dealing with German bureaucracy is emotionally exhausting, and just thinking that going back to my home country would only worsen the depression, I just feel trapped 😓

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gavinakagriffin. 9 months

I have a question, your biggest red flags in LGBTQ+ dating? Here’s mine. Grindr, moves to fast, people who don’t take time to build a dynamic, people with loud judgment, performative people, stereotypes, derogatory language, gay for pay, unnecessary shade, lack of respect to others even with differences, and trying to change someone when they don’t want to conform. What’s yours?

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lax 8 months

691 Went for a stretching/physio session today, so I’m gonna sleep like a baby tonight, I hope.

maxijane 8 months

Being single is fun until you realize you’re still single 😫

jamesiii 8 months

Heated Rivalry asserts a core tenant of critical (m)ass theory: No matter what position you play — forward, center, top, bottom, goaltender, vers, defensemen, or even side— you MUST have a big, fat ass.

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shinbin 9 months

What happens when you scream into the abyss and the abyss screams back? Asking for a friend.

paolosal97 8 months

I have too many crush on this app 😮‍💨🔥

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sailormars 9 months

“If 2 people can sing the same tune, they’ve realized they have something in common” Yo-Yo Ma.

timmy_tamz 9 months

Hey Germany whatever happened to chocolate WITHOUT hazelnuts?!

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strawbrry 8 months

crushing on my pole teacher 🙂‍↕️😶

nico-laos 9 months

I started writing poetry on my tiktok vids (lol) should I write those words here too?

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haydn-bardoe 9 months

I know we all joke about this idea of ‘twink death’ but anyone else find the idea of like aging and “appearing or becoming a man” kinda scary?🙈 And for those who have had that transition already, any advice? 😅

saochiang 9 months

Finishing up my second grad school application, still waiting to hear back from the first one. 😖😖😖

tarbarsam 9 months

Dear Future Wife, That’s it! You’ll never see me young. I was sure I looked pretty decent. At least I don’t have any gray hair. I bragged about it to anyone who’d listen, but today I thought—how do I even know I don’t have gray hair? When was the last time I checked? I rushed to the mirror and guess what? I do. I do have gray hair. Not just one or two, I found the third one in my beard. God knows how long they’ve been there! I mean, I can still pretend they’re not gray, just shiny. But I’ll have to accept it soon. And so will you. You’ll never see me young, my dear. You’ll have to love me for my inner world, for my soul, for who I am, and all this bullshit. Please, hurry up. Who knows what life can do to my soul and how long I will stay the same. Yours, In the future

unboxitabe 9 months

Have you ever ghosted anyone and why?

datboi_ash 8 months

Why can’t I find you?

datboi_ash 8 months

Uk what working for a smoothie place won’t be so bad if a good looking men comes 🫠

mattbenjammin 8 months

I’m not feeling well today, fellas. 😢

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priyesh 9 months

Had pancreatitis flare up. Breaths are heavy. Today is fifth day of recovery. Surviving on good will, Medicines and love. No motivation to get out of bed But carousel never stops turning.

grantandroman 8 months

Hey guys me and my partner are new to this and was thinking this would be a great way to make friends anyone willing to show us the ropes?

lax 8 months

684 Fell sick and couldn’t go in for work today...haven’t felt this mellow in such a long time..

silveraccordlx 9 months

I would like to nerd out about Lux so please comment or DM me if we can discuss. I have a few points in particular that I would like to talk about to somebody: 1. The 5/8 time signature in Divinize 2. The cuntiness of Catholic imagery 3. Should “La Rumba del Perdón” be turned into a movie? 4. Puerto Ricans, chime in, what did she mean by “en PR nació el coraje?” I am only an intermediate Spanish speaker so I’m still grasping what a lot of the songs mean but I’m really feeling like this is an album for the history books.

alvo 9 months

Drop an emoji ⬇️ and I’ll tell you a random fact about me 👋🏼

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sailormars 9 months

There’s no better approval than the one you can provide to yourself. Your self perception changes when you learn how to invest in yourself. Use your thoughts to praise, and love yourself.

sailormars 9 months

For people understanding their relationship patterns: Did you grow up with too much attention, intrusion or sadly too much violation? → (Avoidant attachment) Or did you grew up with neglect, abandonment or loneliness? → (Anxious attachment) In life we need both freedom and stability, and undestanding what you need will help you pick a partner that matches your needs.

sailormars 8 months

Don’t confuse love for attention. One feels like lightning the other feels like connection. One is electric the other one is magnetic. One feels like chasing the other feels like contention. Don’t confuse love for attention.

yoyobaerry 9 months

Dear me, Thank you for being who you are. Despite all your scars of abandonment and abuse, you still choose to fall in love, still choose to be there for other people, still care deeply. You are lovable, kind, and the best gift anyone can receive. Please, don’t forget that. You deserve love and care.

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piu-piu 9 months

My softness use to scare me Now it’s the other way around I’m afraid of how damaging I can be once scorned

avery-ren 9 months

I’ve been beyond excited to see Wicked pt2 for a year, but with all the recent adds of so many big companies collaborating to put out Wicked themed things- It’s reeeally put me off?? Big capitalism and money grubbing like that is gross to me. That’s coming from an ex retail worker tho- you see the worst side of capitalism there.

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breadhubby 9 months

As someone who hates musicals I did enjoy wicked part 1, hopefully wicked 2 is nice too

piu-piu 9 months

I think I finally understood why I will never fall in love : once anything makes me question this sense of “it was meant to be” I’m struck with the indifference of banality And banality is cherisable to but that’s not Love

avery-ren 9 months

I need a fresh hair cut so I can feel confident again 😫

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sailormars 9 months

Journal prompt: If love is already a given, why do you need to perform for it? According to Alison Armstrong, men are born ready to love the person they choose to be with. So why do you feel the need to become someone to be loved, when you are already loved? Tears are expected, encouraged and appreciated. You deserve to be seen and loved. Muah 💋

thotanist 9 months

Important to occasionally get an early morning train to London to remind me of the horrors of the corporate life - a sea of matching haircuts and gilets

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sierramichhh 8 months

May all my haters become my waiters when I sit at the table of success 🗣️

nico-laos 9 months

People are making fun of me cause I didn’t know the wicked story before the film lol. But they don’t understand that musicals in italy are not a thing and it’s kinda of a privilege even having the film in the original language.. btw we shouldn’t judge people for their ignorance in pop culture because there’s SO MUCH to discover yet.

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donovan.dona 9 months

the greeks had Plato and y'all have me !

dendendenden 8 months

Life happens when you’re not looking

shg 9 months

It’s wild how you can be talking to someone, genuinely trying to build somethin; and then one random morning, you see they’ve unfollowed you. No explanation. No conversation. Just a quiet exit. So you ask why, and the answer is: “I thought we’re not a good match.” And honestly? That part doesn’t even matter. Who cares about being “rejected” by someone you’ve met for a few weeks? That’s life. People connect, people don’t. It’s fine. What’s not fine is the lack of basic respect. Since when did we lose the ability to communicate like adults? At what age do we finally grow into the maturity to say things openly instead of disappearing, unfollowing, or avoiding a simple conversation?

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muffyn 9 months

When things in life shift, they can be intimidating, and that’s okay, sometimes we need to be thrown from our comfort zone and try new things (or meet new people) staying within our bubble won’t lets us grow. 🫶🏼

austinsdalley 9 months

Making out with someone to the crescendo of Divinize is an other worldly experience and I highly recommend

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michael-m 9 months

And I couldn’t help but wonder… how would any of us fare in a nuclear winter as Mother Russia starts dropping her bombs???

milly 9 months

My sister was saying how funny she finds it that the stranglers - golden brown trending at the moment is because I used to be unhealthily obsessed with that song in the early 2000s. Once when we were kids and waiting in the car while our parents were shopping I held her hostage and forced her to put it on repeat for 40 minutes

sub 8 months

Lo poco amigables que son algunos pepinos por acá…

freitas 8 months

I won’t give up, I won’t give up, I won’t give up, I won’t give up Even if it takes a little time

clownpup 8 months

i love bears and otters and big hairy bodies yes lordddd

mostlyval 8 months

kinda miss the summer fits tbh

._.dude. 8 months

Might show my face at 200 followers idk 🤷‍♂️

aquaalaa 8 months

Looking at my feed and oh my goodness I seen so many gorgeous men

alex 9 months

i was trying to be responsible with the gym bag i want to buy. i said, i’ll wait until it hits 120 ♥️s. it jumped to 121 the next day. i said, i’ll wait until it goes on sale. it just went 5% off. how many more signs do i need?

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lax 8 months

693 Started to plan my weekend now…and I guess I’m making progress...last 5 months was truly a struggle..

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