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Quick vulnerable post: As much as I love living in San Francisco, one of the things about living in a transient city like SF is just how quickly your friends will get up and move away. Think I’ve had like 7 friends in the last 3 months decide to move to NYC or elsewhere. And another 2-3 are moving away in January 2026. Like I still have a handful of friends here that I am grateful for and I’m mostly comfortable being alone and what not but man… it starting to feel lonely not gonna lie 😭. When I’m out walking around and I see groups of people hanging out doing fun activities together, having dinners and what not, I do get a little jealous because I’m watching my circle is shrink with each day. And despite what people say, it’s lowkey hard to make new genuine friends, at least in my experience. Sorry for the long post but just needed somewhere to get out these thoughts.
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somebody please tell me i don’t need to bleach my hair again
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Let’s trade peppermint flavored chapstick
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Him: “Why me when you can have anyone you want.” Me: There are so many options but I’m going to choose you every time.😜
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popped 3 zyns everything is okay now
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UNAPOLOGETIC era energy only.
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Always wanna try acting but too scared and don’t know how to start…
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Nothing gives the ick faster than seeing your partner getting rejected by other people in their attempts to cheat. now I don’t want you either😂
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Heated Rivalry was definitely a fun read
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Heated rivalry I can’t take this😫😫😫😫
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This song feels like someone is caressing through the crevices of my brain
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speak louder than me (ik you will)
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I’m. So. Tired
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Can't wait to attend Ethel's concert im soooooooo excited
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Any idea when is ep 4 of heated rivalry will be out in California time 😭
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it saddens/shocks me how music, too, is simply math and physics 🫠
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If everyone is DL trade… is anyone really DL trade?
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Happy to report I will NOT be sleeping in my contacts tonight 😌
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It sounds stupid, but I'm still waiting for a message, even though I told you to "leave me alone"
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To come out or Not to come out That is the question That is ALWAYS the question I don’t know how much longer I can deal with being dead named and misgendered by family
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Just sent a risky text, wish me luck!
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8 hour work days should legit come with two full meals they have to provide for you
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“You might like” YES I LIKE. OF COURSE I DO.
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I had an early Xmas 🎄 dinner and watched a classic early-2000s romantic Xmas movie with my bestie before the holiday. RN I’m in bed listening to early-2000s emo songs ;( 💤💚
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What limitations are you letting go off this year?
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Going through my grandparents house I just found medicine that expired in 1999…
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For my artist, After you release a song do you ever find it hard to promote/listen to, cause you’ve already listened to it hundreds of times? It feels like every time I put out work, especially a body of work I’m so done with it. It feels like shedding skin and it’s an old version of me.
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just went down a rabbit hole of taste, luxury, colonialism, capitalism, zionism, socialism, and communism with my conservative right-wing uncle
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So elated to have passed my driving test today. Can’t believe it’s doneeeee! 🥳🥳🥳
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If men are trash I’m a stupid raccoon
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It’s 4 am and I’m still working on a PowerPoint I swore was going to take me a couple hours at most. It’s been 7 hours. *breaks fourth wall—stares into camera.
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Sweating out beads of Prosecco in the gym. ‘Tis the season for sure 💀
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i think leftover oats that dried in a bowl might be the toughest material known to humankind (on earth)
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Until we meet again!
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love isn’t complicated. we are.
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Y’all ever been pissed at someone you’ve barely ever spoken to?
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My Experience With German Education So I just finished a 41-page lab report. Yes, forty-one pages. For one Strömungsmechanik lab. Not a thesis, not a research paper, not a plea for a PhD scholarship — just a regular assignment apparently? German universities are wild. They don’t want you to simply understand the experiment — they want a full scientific encyclopedia: calculations, diagrams, DIN formatting, uncertainty analysis, literature comparison, symbol directory, Kontrollfragen, and original raw data like you’re publishing groundbreaking work for the United Nations. Instructions? None. Templates? Absolutely not. Just the classic: “Hier ist die Aufgabe. Viel Erfolg.” Translation: Good luck, warrior. Try not to cry. The emotional journey is beautiful: start confident, slowly descend into madness, rewrite everything three times at 3 AM, question life choices, google “how to drop out,” then somehow finish. Now I’m exhausted, brain-dead, but still weirdly proud. Because if you survive German education — you survive anything. 💅💅💅
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686 Tried Ivan’s Ramen and the broth was really rich, and the slender noodles go so well together…by far one of the best I’ve had. The sides, however, leaves much to be desired, and was not hitting the same as the ramen itself.
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a light in my heart has gone out 💔 I lost one of the great loves of my life last week. I love and miss you more than words could ever say, yui 🌌
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685 Skipped workout classes today, instead opt to do some chores and stayed in… I kinda like having the whole day to just rest up
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I’ve had one of those weeks where I’m scared to check my bank accounts
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I’m just learning that Harry Styles fumbled Olivia Dean; never forget your worth just because someone doesn’t see it
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We need a gay escrow service. You both front some money & whoever ghosts the other loses. Idk
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after procrastinating it for like 3 months, i finally started drawing the portraits of people (the post i made a little while ago)
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how are the gays doing out in the world this fine evening???
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Style and music are structurally connected — whether it’s rap, punk, electronic, or anything born from rebellion. All these genres function as identity systems. In cultural theory, fashion is non-verbal communication; music is linguistic and sonic resistance. Before a single word or note hits, the visual language arrives first. Neuroscience proves we process appearance faster than meaning, so an outfit becomes the first message. That’s why artists like Omote or Yuki Chiba don’t just wear clothes — they construct a visual manifesto. Silhouette, proportion, texture, distortion: these are psychological tools, not decoration. Rap, punk, and experimental music all rewrite social order instead of obeying it. So let’s end this pathetic narrative that we should care what others think. Why let people with zero identity and zero cultural literacy decide what is “acceptable”? Their discomfort is just a fear response. Real style and real music say: I define myself. If that threatens them — good. That’s evolution.
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I love how this app is made not to exclude us!! Most apps I feel like are spewing negativity so I’m so happy your all here <333
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Just watched Heated Rivalry and Hudson Williams was incredibly good on the 2nd episode when he was talking to Ilya about when did his english get so good. Find a man that looks at you the way Shane looks at Ilya.
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Booked my next tattoo 😌😌😌
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When I was in primary school did belly dancing classes (instead of ballet ig idk I stuck with it for years tho)
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For the first time I felt uncomfortable for being in a space with no diversity and no one else like me. And weird stares from people. Still I’m privileged, as I wasn’t facing any real danger or hate. Absolutely no one should be felt like they’re less of a valuable person only for being different. I don’t know how this being so simple is so hard to see. 💔
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“Family holidays” To the gays who dont have family I see you babe. We have other days that we celebrate. Be kind to yourself during this time. We are loved <3
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Will meet my man, who isn’t my man next weekend. So why am I doing this to myself? To be messy I guess 💆
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the way it’s been hypothesized that the reason dating apps are so frustrating to use now is because of covid and how it’s fucked up everyone’s brain and reduced empathy and us as humans being able to make connections with others and be in tact with our emotions and caring about others and being able to be committed to people in a long term communication way instead of the usual text for a few days / weeks then they disappear like oh so im not losing my mind, everyone on dating apps really is just annoying and horrific to talk to now and it’s only gonna get worse cause nobody masks and the us is headed in a dark dark direction so everyone’s gonna keep catching covid and worse things like ah alright well, can’t say im surprised 🙂‍↔️
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