lukapuka 2 months

Do y’all like Skims underwear? It’s acc so nice haha

p.ierre 2 months

Guys my phone used to belong to an opp. For the last 3 years, I’ve been getting David’s texts from orange man to complete his MAGA profile and other things MAGA related 😬

niccoloserratt 2 months

Week four of sending 20+ applications a day. If I have to type my name one more fucking time, I will scream. Rant over.

nicros244 2 months

any tips on the twunkification process?

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kydavy 2 months

The orange August Moon The orange August moon is an eight piece brass band parading through town and If you listen closely its song leads you home The orange August moon reminds me to stay still sit on my hands and listen to the sound of my heart I’m still alive The orange August moon makes my shoulders drop, my heart ache, my eyes well, and my knee bounce like my father’s did every morning when he read the paper I will call home in the morning The orange August moon politely asks me to stop and say hello to who I have always been All my other selves take turns cursing the moon for demanding the truth

shinblue 2 months

I see a vision of you Far away, unreachable You're standing in the fog I can hardly see your face Your figure looks dark, unfamiliar I feel the urge to approach you But my legs stand still, my heart unmoving I see a vision of me Running towards you, with scars on my hands and broken bones in my legs I run and run and gasp and beg Just for you to vanish when I arrive I open my eyes, I can still see you This time farther away, a darker shadow

justkp 3 months

I’ve matched with some great people here, but moving from a ‘match’ to a real-life friendship is harder than it looks! For those who’ve made it work: what’s your secret recipe for moving past the small talk? I’d love to hear your approach. 🙌

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jaren 2 months

gay couples STOP worrying about tops and bottoms! its about which one of you is hot while clean and which one of you is hot while dirty!

curtis_vincent 2 months

Q: What does every tree with commitment issues have in common? A: Leaves.

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ethana 2 months

Hinge is only on my phone to humble me at this point

jeandoe 3 months

First time I said outloud im gay: year 7/8. midnight, under my covers. I could only muscle enough strength to whisper it to myself. “I’m gay”

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lax 2 months

553 Only here in London, you have tube strikes and still pay more for the extra transport journey you’ll have to take

mostwanted 2 months

it’s boyfriend season, start mingling

jeandoe 2 months

Emotionally.. non existent. But still there

vichaotica 2 months

There’s a little bird that keeps sitting next to me but everytime i go to take a picture it flies away 😭 i feel like snow white and trolled at the same time lol

xandermar 3 months

Read this article and was quite interesting: “The loneliness epidemic in people's thirties isn't caused by social media or introversion — it's the first decade where maintaining friendships requires deliberate effort rather than structural proximity, and almost nobody was taught how to do that.” … do you agree with this?

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xandermar 3 months

As I get older, I find myself genuinely wondering: how do you actually build a deep, platonic community outside of bars and hookup culture? Is this a challenge unique to the gay experience or is it just a universal part of aging regardless of orientation? What are your thoughts and experiences on the matter?

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vale 2 months

The fact that I haven’t texted with a man in like ages, it says a lot on how I really have no idea what I want in this period of my life! Some times I try to start a convo with someone who lives here or even ppl who live abroad, but I never see so much interest if it’s not a hookup! My delusional ass is always thinking that someone would like my photos so much and get so interested in me so they’d try to get to know me and then who knows… but i get that it’s just too much effort nowadays for ppl to establish a friendship/relationship when you know maybe you’ll never meet this person! But also how do you find someone you like?! That man maybe is on Mars 🤣

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oslo 2 months

House is finally coming together

austinsdalley 2 months

It appears that, once again, I’m going to need to make my own luck

harmsy2 2 months

First needed a Peeta to my Katniss, now need a Lenore Dove to my Haymitch

catdad 3 months

Anyone else nearly ugly sob when the Artemis II 🚀 team humbly requested to name a Moon 🌖 feature after a spouse who passed? 😭😭😭

gino.table 3 months

Lately, I’ve been thinking more about misogyny among gay men. I used to believe being gay automatically made me a better ally to women. It doesn’t. We grow up in the same patriarchal system, absorb the same ideas, and often reproduce them. Just in different ways. In many gay spaces, women barely play a role. That absence can turn into indifference, sometimes even contempt: the casual body-shaming, the jokes, the dismissal of women’s experiences. None of this feels extreme in the moment. But that’s exactly the problem: it‘s normal. Unlike straight men, we don’t depend on women romantically. That can make it easier not to think about them at all. But in a world where women still rely on male solidarity, that indifference becomes a form of complicity. Misogyny doesn’t always look like hate. Often, it looks like silence, laughter, or disinterest. And if we’re honest, we’re part of that. Recognizing it isn’t about guilt. It’s the minimum requirement for change which is desperately needed.

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luisteran 2 months

loved that sabrina brought madonna on stage for her set

collectj 3 months

What was the last thing that inspired you?

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eglanger18 2 months

This korean skincare better change my life lmao

marygladyshevaa 2 months

any tips on how to make the time pass faster? im craving june, ASAP

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brad 2 months

Uber charging $50 for a 10minute trip because it’s at 130am instead of $20 is absolute robbery.

zayuh 2 months

i really can be petty sometimes cuz tell me why this guy wants to reschedule the date i planned for us today and im like.. nah i’m good ✌️

lax 2 months

556 Caught up with the whole season for fellow travellers (finally!) and the ending was really well done

paul_apolinario 2 months

I Like them scrambled in the morning thank you P.s. Sunny side’s up only on sundays

bran.don 2 months

Why is it so hard to find a good fitted, baggy tee?

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thnhdlng 2 months

If we can choose to be anything, it should be, kind.

anothermillennialhere 2 months

In the matters of heart and mind, who wins? Who do you want to win?

trees 2 months

How are you all so hot !!?

rsrs 3 months

Is anyone going to pinkpantheress?? I need outfit ideas 😩

aaronanthony 3 months

In need of more houseplants…What’s your favorite?

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jonauk 3 months

So where could I actually find someone decent ? I feel like I see the same people all the time, people I see on apps, at the clubs, or places and they just seem to want to waste peoples time. So where do I find someone who actually wants a relationship? Please tell me hahaha

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jama 3 months

Came here for the LGBTQ+ community… not for straight men in my DMs, yet here we are

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p.ierre 2 months

Still can’t believe Nicki is MAGA. Still one of the most disappointing things of 2026

aphrodite.aphroditus 3 months

Sometimes I’ve ran. Ran away from myself toward myself. Always in pursuit of growth. Eagerly shedding selves to hang on old hangers. And here I am, 33, in the midst of spring— dusting off the closet, trying some of those old selves back on.

alextric 2 months

Might be a crazy question but if you break up and you both hate being apart is it wrong? ( it was mutual but we know the reason) it hurts 😭

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marygladyshevaa 2 months

being far away from someone who brings the light to your life, the sparkle to your eyes, the “ticklish” feeling all over your body, the numbness from just hearing their voice- should be illegal. Humanity should invent a teleport system, hmu if someone can help with that? please and thank you

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jbenjamin 2 months

Dear autocorrect, It’s “gorge.” Thats what I mean to say. You’ve seen me say it. Don’t change it to gorgeous. THANKS.

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axl 3 months

Watched Selena (1997) and I’m reminded it’s still FU*K YOLANDA. 30 years and counting.

collective 3 months

The "is this a date?" anxiety is real There is a unique kind of pressure that comes with meeting other queer people. Often, it feels like you have to choose between a potential romance or nothing at all. But what happens when you just want a friend who gets your references and wants to grab a drink without any strings attached? Finding queer platonic relationships should not feel like a consolation prize. It is a vital part of building a supportive LGBTQ+ community, yet most apps make it incredibly difficult to stay in the friend zone. Collective is the antidote to this cycle of confusion. It is a dedicated space for making gay friends and finding community without the hidden agendas of traditional dating apps. The app includes a clear matching system where members select their preferences for chat, friends, or dates. If someone is not looking for romance, the dating option is taken off the table. This makes it easy to focus on real connection from the start. Collective is free to join and currently home to 100,000 members worldwide. Whether you are new to a city or looking to expand your circle, Collective is the place to be. Download the app to join the community for free.

aboutvlntn 3 months

I’ve never really been drawn to the gym. Something about closed spaces, machines, and that whole atmosphere just doesn’t resonate with me. I also never had the goal of getting big. I feel comfortable in my body, I move well, I have energy, and that’s enough for me. And honestly, changing my entire wardrobe sounds like a very expensive life decision anyway.👹 At home, I keep it simple — a pull-up bar, a couple of dumbbells, and my yoga mat, which is probably the one thing I use the most. I’d rather go for a hike, swim, or spend a few hours playing golf when I can. Movement, for me, has to feel natural and a bit free. Seeing so many gym-focused posts lately, even here, makes me pause sometimes. I wonder if people truly enjoy it, or if it’s just what feels accessible when you haven’t found your own rhythm yet. I guess we all just try to find our way of moving through life. What does yours look like?

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mirkoplengemeyer 3 months

I can still feel them. His lips on mine. My hands on his. The tingling. The breathing. For three weeks we let lips, tingling and hands do their thing. He made me breakfast, I cooked him dinner. Us. Novels couldn’t have written us better. Every second. Every minute. Every hour. Every week. All of them belonged to us.

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sourkosher 2 months

Tô aprendendo português :) se vc fala, me manda uma mensagem

milly 2 months

When regular customers start saying “wow you’ve been working here forever” that means I have to kill myself right ?

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