avery-ren 10 months

Going through my grandparents house I just found medicine that expired in 1999…

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nate 10 months

just went down a rabbit hole of taste, luxury, colonialism, capitalism, zionism, socialism, and communism with my conservative right-wing uncle

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eyeofpsi 10 months

For my artist, After you release a song do you ever find it hard to promote/listen to, cause you’ve already listened to it hundreds of times? It feels like every time I put out work, especially a body of work I’m so done with it. It feels like shedding skin and it’s an old version of me.

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kings_world 10 months

If men are trash I’m a stupid raccoon

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bex 10 months

So elated to have passed my driving test today. Can’t believe it’s doneeeee! 🥳🥳🥳

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anseo 10 months

Sweating out beads of Prosecco in the gym. ‘Tis the season for sure 💀

aphrodite.aphroditus 10 months

It’s 4 am and I’m still working on a PowerPoint I swore was going to take me a couple hours at most. It’s been 7 hours. *breaks fourth wall—stares into camera.

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soupwaylee 10 months

i think leftover oats that dried in a bowl might be the toughest material known to humankind (on earth)

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car.lo.5 10 months

Until we meet again!

die 10 months

love isn’t complicated. we are.

thatonelankyboy 10 months

Y’all ever been pissed at someone you’ve barely ever spoken to?

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toimoiaussi_ 11 months

My Experience With German Education So I just finished a 41-page lab report. Yes, forty-one pages. For one Strömungsmechanik lab. Not a thesis, not a research paper, not a plea for a PhD scholarship — just a regular assignment apparently? German universities are wild. They don’t want you to simply understand the experiment — they want a full scientific encyclopedia: calculations, diagrams, DIN formatting, uncertainty analysis, literature comparison, symbol directory, Kontrollfragen, and original raw data like you’re publishing groundbreaking work for the United Nations. Instructions? None. Templates? Absolutely not. Just the classic: “Hier ist die Aufgabe. Viel Erfolg.” Translation: Good luck, warrior. Try not to cry. The emotional journey is beautiful: start confident, slowly descend into madness, rewrite everything three times at 3 AM, question life choices, google “how to drop out,” then somehow finish. Now I’m exhausted, brain-dead, but still weirdly proud. Because if you survive German education — you survive anything. 💅💅💅

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lax 10 months

686 Tried Ivan’s Ramen and the broth was really rich, and the slender noodles go so well together…by far one of the best I’ve had. The sides, however, leaves much to be desired, and was not hitting the same as the ramen itself.

strawbrry 10 months

a light in my heart has gone out 💔 I lost one of the great loves of my life last week. I love and miss you more than words could ever say, yui 🌌

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avatar.isaac 10 months

I’m just learning that Harry Styles fumbled Olivia Dean; never forget your worth just because someone doesn’t see it

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lax 10 months

685 Skipped workout classes today, instead opt to do some chores and stayed in… I kinda like having the whole day to just rest up

enigmattic 10 months

I’ve had one of those weeks where I’m scared to check my bank accounts

luisteran 10 months

after procrastinating it for like 3 months, i finally started drawing the portraits of people (the post i made a little while ago)

bryan-tino 10 months

We need a gay escrow service. You both front some money & whoever ghosts the other loses. Idk

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toimoiaussi_ 11 months

Style and music are structurally connected — whether it’s rap, punk, electronic, or anything born from rebellion. All these genres function as identity systems. In cultural theory, fashion is non-verbal communication; music is linguistic and sonic resistance. Before a single word or note hits, the visual language arrives first. Neuroscience proves we process appearance faster than meaning, so an outfit becomes the first message. That’s why artists like Omote or Yuki Chiba don’t just wear clothes — they construct a visual manifesto. Silhouette, proportion, texture, distortion: these are psychological tools, not decoration. Rap, punk, and experimental music all rewrite social order instead of obeying it. So let’s end this pathetic narrative that we should care what others think. Why let people with zero identity and zero cultural literacy decide what is “acceptable”? Their discomfort is just a fear response. Real style and real music say: I define myself. If that threatens them — good. That’s evolution.

thotanist 10 months

Booked my next tattoo 😌😌😌

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joshualight 10 months

how are the gays doing out in the world this fine evening???

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travellingfive 10 months

Just watched Heated Rivalry and Hudson Williams was incredibly good on the 2nd episode when he was talking to Ilya about when did his english get so good. Find a man that looks at you the way Shane looks at Ilya.

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antmadonna 10 months

I love how this app is made not to exclude us!! Most apps I feel like are spewing negativity so I’m so happy your all here <333

milly 10 months

When I was in primary school did belly dancing classes (instead of ballet ig idk I stuck with it for years tho)

hawkanderson 10 months

“Family holidays” To the gays who dont have family I see you babe. We have other days that we celebrate. Be kind to yourself during this time. We are loved <3

alvo 11 months

For the first time I felt uncomfortable for being in a space with no diversity and no one else like me. And weird stares from people. Still I’m privileged, as I wasn’t facing any real danger or hate. Absolutely no one should be felt like they’re less of a valuable person only for being different. I don’t know how this being so simple is so hard to see. 💔

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hmln_leo 10 months

Will meet my man, who isn’t my man next weekend. So why am I doing this to myself? To be messy I guess 💆

waterverga 10 months

una vez más, si saben de algún trabajo relacionado con diseño de mobiliario/carpinteria en Barcelona, soy todo oídos once again, if you know of any jobs related to furniture design/carpentry in Barcelona, i’m all ears 👹🌞

clownpup 10 months

the way it’s been hypothesized that the reason dating apps are so frustrating to use now is because of covid and how it’s fucked up everyone’s brain and reduced empathy and us as humans being able to make connections with others and be in tact with our emotions and caring about others and being able to be committed to people in a long term communication way instead of the usual text for a few days / weeks then they disappear like oh so im not losing my mind, everyone on dating apps really is just annoying and horrific to talk to now and it’s only gonna get worse cause nobody masks and the us is headed in a dark dark direction so everyone’s gonna keep catching covid and worse things like ah alright well, can’t say im surprised 🙂‍↔️

toimoiaussi_ 10 months

What would you like to see more? 🥺 🖤 Places 🖤 Me 🖤 Aesthetic

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vctor 10 months

Have y’all ever met someone who just weighs the room down? It’s such a strange feeling, like my whole body reacts before my mind catches up. The arrogance of some people doesn't deserve my peace of mind, nor my presence. It throws me off balance. I step back, breathe and choose balance. I’ve been intentionally learning it. Feelings I just need to put out of my system {nº 1}.

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strawbrry 10 months

about to be a terror on Letterboxd

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pushkarovych 10 months

anyone wants to watch heated rivalry together ? 🙈

itsjacobedmonds 10 months

To any LGBTQ+ person on Thanksgiving: Know that you are loved and you are seen and you are accepted. You don’t need to apologize for being yourself. You deserve to eat all the food you want, and laugh as loud as you want. Because you matter. You belong here. And you are perfect just the way you are.

shawnmendes 10 months

Yeah I watched the first two episodes of Heated Rivalry and at one point I thought about turning it off. Not because I thought it was bad or anything, but because I felt like I was intruding and wanted to give them some privacy. Cause like DAMN 😂

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fawn 10 months

how do you gay men deal with feeling unattractive or having low self worth? is this any different to how straight people might feel sometimes? (asking for a friend…

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6nny1 10 months

Just as important it is to have friends that uplift you I also think it’s important to have friends that remind you that you really aren’t the main character. Some people will live much more lavish lives, much crazier lives, and much more interesting lives than you in general, and i think it’s important to keep these people close because yeah you can draw inspiration from them but they also keep you grounded in a way that can’t exist when you think you’re the main character. Food for thought :3

leoiswho 10 months

These bright headlights are getting out of control! I’m so close to wearing sunglasses for night driving 😭😫

avatar.isaac 10 months

my titties have grown. is this what womanhood feels like?

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sailormars 10 months

Reminder: You get to. You get to wake up, you get to choose your outfit, you get to live your life. You get to let go of your limitations and become who you want to be.

avatar.isaac 10 months

ngl I think I like some of my things stupid. Like yes. Let me manually open my door. Thank you very much 😤

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unboxitabe 10 months

SO how was the thanksgiving drama this year?

unboxitabe 10 months

Who was your top 5 artist this year?

chrysanthos 10 months

Boy your sweet love, ends and begins me..

toimoiaussi_ 11 months

Style isn’t decoration for me — it’s language. I dress to say what I don’t feel like explaining. Clothing is a way to build identity, not to chase approval. I’m drawn to pieces that feel like protection: jewelry that looks like a weapon, silhouettes with structure, textures that carry story. Soft and sharp at the same time. Romantic and brutal. Fashion is supposed to express who you are before you speak. Roland Barthes called clothing a system of meaning, and I believe that. Style is how you choose to be understood without performing. I’m not trying to impress. I’m trying to be honest. So tell me: Do you dress to express yourself, or to fit in?

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theseus 10 months

Concept : Xmas dinner but it’s collective members only ❤️‍🔥✨

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omarisims 11 months

I went to MotherDisco by myself tonight, here are my Opinions… 1. “Sometimes being a gay Black man in a space like this feels like stepping into a room where you’re both the main character and the mystery guest.” 2. “There’s nothing like that moment when another Black queer person spots you across the room and you share that silent nod like, ‘You good? We safe? You cute.’” 3.“The best part? When the right song comes on — the one only the Black girls, the Black gays, and your spirit understand — and suddenly you’re not at Mother Disco anymore. You’re in a church. Your church.” 4.“Being Black and gay in a club is always a balance between: Do I want attention tonight or do I want peace tonight? Because I can’t have both.”

luke_vieira 10 months

At the gym rn. I really want to eat a big fat greasy McDonald’s burger. Help

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cchristophrr 10 months

Furnishing a new apartment where are good places to buy pieces from?

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helloitsgui 10 months

How do you people make new friends in London? Like friends, not acquaintances

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gabellaquita 10 months

there’s so many aesthetic handsome men on here….idk how yall curate your photos so nicely 😭

aphrodite.aphroditus 10 months

My hot take: double-spaced is ugly.

psychedelicprince 10 months

many of us take antidepressants because being gay is devastating.

_mattepio_ 10 months

Yesterday I have seen a beautiful show at the theatre 🎭 and the actor my goodness he was great, a shame that I couldn’t get pictures

breadhubby 10 months

Finished Hacks, what a fun show and I absolutely recommend it!

luca995 10 months

Who thinks it would be cool to organise like an LGBTQ retreat?

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